Hey Margo,
I personally see it like this - some trumatic event(s) affected how my brain processes and handle information. It basically "scarred" me so that anything in the current and future is handled the same way. It's like someone dismembers you - the body compensates for that missing body part. You cant do things the same way. So PTSD makes us believe certain things and makes us act based on how we perceive things. I see, think, feel things differently than if trauma hadn't happened. If you carve out a new path in the mountain, melted snow will start flowing that way.
I have come to be able to explain myself a bit better. I had to try to understand their view. The cliche saying of "if you keep tripping over the sidewalk, take another path" became my mantra. I don't talk PTSD. I don't care for terms, acronyms. The brain is very, very complex. People without ptsd have insecurities, bad relationships, anger, depression, etc.
When people say something, I'm quick to respond that if they haven't gone through something themselves, they have no room to talk. Also, if they have nothing uplifting or constructive to say, don'g say anything. I usually make snide comments like "I hate when people complain about (something trivial) and expect sympathy when other people are going through REAL problems." I'm a straight shooter / no BS. Or I say, "i hope this happens to you so we can see how you'd feel." People need to learn to shut their mouth.
Don't need to wear ballet shoes but don't subject yourself to be roadkill either. That's why I wear heels!!!!
I learned that people aren't taught manners or to mind their own business. If they want to help, they have a weird way of showing it.
Aaah feels good to vent. :)
I personally see it like this - some trumatic event(s) affected how my brain processes and handle information. It basically "scarred" me so that anything in the current and future is handled the same way. It's like someone dismembers you - the body compensates for that missing body part. You cant do things the same way. So PTSD makes us believe certain things and makes us act based on how we perceive things. I see, think, feel things differently than if trauma hadn't happened. If you carve out a new path in the mountain, melted snow will start flowing that way.
I have come to be able to explain myself a bit better. I had to try to understand their view. The cliche saying of "if you keep tripping over the sidewalk, take another path" became my mantra. I don't talk PTSD. I don't care for terms, acronyms. The brain is very, very complex. People without ptsd have insecurities, bad relationships, anger, depression, etc.
When people say something, I'm quick to respond that if they haven't gone through something themselves, they have no room to talk. Also, if they have nothing uplifting or constructive to say, don'g say anything. I usually make snide comments like "I hate when people complain about (something trivial) and expect sympathy when other people are going through REAL problems." I'm a straight shooter / no BS. Or I say, "i hope this happens to you so we can see how you'd feel." People need to learn to shut their mouth.
Don't need to wear ballet shoes but don't subject yourself to be roadkill either. That's why I wear heels!!!!
I learned that people aren't taught manners or to mind their own business. If they want to help, they have a weird way of showing it.
Aaah feels good to vent. :)
