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DharmaGirl

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I went out to talk to my brother since I hadn't seen him in 24 hours, and he lives with me. His bedroom is in what used to be a shop, but we finished into a room. He had hung himself from the exposed rafter. I couldn't stop screaming. The screaming took over my body. I am so sorry. Just so sorry. We both had a horrific childhood, and he just didn't make it.

He was seeing a psychiatric nurse practitioner, and even though he made an attempt in May, and one last December, she decided he was moderately depressed and was in no danger of hurting himself. The attempt in May was an overdose of my pain meds that should have killed a horse, but I found him in time. He went to the hospital, and when his heart was normal again, 4 hours later, they discharged him. I argued with the social worker, but she told me he said he was fine. He was full of morphine! He told her that he would say anything to go home and she still discharged him. I am angry that with all the help he was seeking, nobody took him seriously. Now he's dead.
 
When my "unofficial adopted brother" shot himself, part of what I wondered was "Why didn't he call me?", "Why didn't he say something?" etc. Basically, "What did I miss?" It dawned on me later than he didn't say anything to ME because he was trying to talk himself IN to doing it and didn't want to be stopped or talked out of it. And I would have, or would have tried. I disagree with his choice. And, I grieve your brother's choice. But I think it's true that a person who really wants to kill themselves will and there's not much any of us can do about it. I wish it was different. And I wish that somehow mere words could make you feel better. I know they can't. Take care of yourself! We all want you around here for a LONG time! :hug:
 
Dear @DharmaGirl , I can't find the words. :( :cry: I've tried all day.

I am so so very very sorry. You must be in shock, along with the terrible enormous grief. I braced the other day for finding the same, & that is absolutely nothing compared to the reality. I am so sorry such a bad thing has happened to two good people who have suffered so much. Please reach out here if you want & can. :notworthy: XOXOX
 
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