So I'm just still processing all of this.
I was married for five years. I fully new about the ptsd and we were together for a year prior to marrying.
In moments of complete rationality, I told him that I was tortured and beaten to do housework (well, all work really, the animals (I lived on a farm), etc).
The triggering began and I went through many horrible flashbacks and rages, begging him to contribute to the housework. During the entire 5 years, he'd make what I considered pathetic efforts for maybe two days, then if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done for several days and make even more of a mess for me eventually to do.
Part of it is my fault as I wanted to 'be the good wife'.......he worked for a year and a half, so I'd make sure and get as many chores done as possible, however I was working to, albeit from home. So I sort of trained him. But then he inherited a bunch of money and I'm not saying he was lazy, just that the work he did was all outside, projects, lawn, working on the car. I'd to all the traditional stuff.
I'd say again and again how this was triggering me. He start an argument, claiming I was calling him lazy. I definitely said he was not lazy. I'd again explain my traumas.
Anyway, stuck it out for five years and left with my life barely intact......an emotional and physical wreck, beaten down, devastated cause it would never seem to change and the flashbacks were getting more frequent and worsening. Ended up suicidal MANY times. Wanted to leave (flight) when it was intense and he hit me (he says he 'slapped' me cause I was slapping trying to get away from him and leave......but that 'slap' knocked me out cold).
Would you all consider this emotional abuse?
Incredibly selfish..........incredibly triggering. This is 'love?'
I'm divorced now.......living on disability, he didn't give me an extra dime, but he is paying for board on my horse as a way to 'make up???" I go down the tubes emotionally every time I have to speak to him. Thinking of selling my horse. 5 freaking years and he still says he 'doesn't understand ptsd'
Emotional abuse????
I was married for five years. I fully new about the ptsd and we were together for a year prior to marrying.
In moments of complete rationality, I told him that I was tortured and beaten to do housework (well, all work really, the animals (I lived on a farm), etc).
The triggering began and I went through many horrible flashbacks and rages, begging him to contribute to the housework. During the entire 5 years, he'd make what I considered pathetic efforts for maybe two days, then if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done for several days and make even more of a mess for me eventually to do.
Part of it is my fault as I wanted to 'be the good wife'.......he worked for a year and a half, so I'd make sure and get as many chores done as possible, however I was working to, albeit from home. So I sort of trained him. But then he inherited a bunch of money and I'm not saying he was lazy, just that the work he did was all outside, projects, lawn, working on the car. I'd to all the traditional stuff.
I'd say again and again how this was triggering me. He start an argument, claiming I was calling him lazy. I definitely said he was not lazy. I'd again explain my traumas.
Anyway, stuck it out for five years and left with my life barely intact......an emotional and physical wreck, beaten down, devastated cause it would never seem to change and the flashbacks were getting more frequent and worsening. Ended up suicidal MANY times. Wanted to leave (flight) when it was intense and he hit me (he says he 'slapped' me cause I was slapping trying to get away from him and leave......but that 'slap' knocked me out cold).
Would you all consider this emotional abuse?
Incredibly selfish..........incredibly triggering. This is 'love?'
I'm divorced now.......living on disability, he didn't give me an extra dime, but he is paying for board on my horse as a way to 'make up???" I go down the tubes emotionally every time I have to speak to him. Thinking of selling my horse. 5 freaking years and he still says he 'doesn't understand ptsd'
Emotional abuse????
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