Trouble Saying No

[Lost-lady]

I feel so used of late
My whole life is a lie
I pretty much feel like
trapped inside chronic
Depression because I
Don't like what my life has
Become I'm 35 this year
I Bent to my partner's
Want to not have children
Now I can't even tell him I want to leave

 

[Engineer]

What you have is referred to as Co-dependency the need to put a person's needs above your own and sacrifice everything for them. The inability to be independent in a relationship. I too struggle with this.

 

[Lost-lady]

I guess it is true I haven't left home alone in years

 

[Engineer]

I guess it is true I haven't left home alone in years

I haven't found the way to overcome this but, there is an online group for this too.

 

[Deleted member 541]

"No" is a complete sentence. It gets easier after saying it for the first time. Don't get trapped into doing something that you don't want to do, because you will resent him for it and will resent having children that you didn't want in the first place. If you're not in therapy, I suggspest strongly that you find a therapist, and have them help you with saying NO......