Supporter Trying to support my navy vet partner without compromising my boundaries

[KayGee]

Hi everyone,

I'm a Canadian girl from Vancouver in love with a US Navy Vet. I think we'd be incredibly happy together if it weren't for his illness, but we're working on managing it. I'm trying to be as supporting as possible, but sometimes his behaviour borders on verbal abuse. I decided to come here for some support, since I don't personally know ANYONE here who has the first clue about combat related PTSD, and I've been feeling increasingly alone and confused.

I hope to also contribute to other people's posts with what little I can offer in terms of insight or support. It'll be good to have a community that gets what we're going through.

 

[Sighs]

Welcome!

There are many of us here supporting combat veterans. There is also a private supporters section if you are interested in having a place to vent.

 

[KayGee]

Thank you, I did notice that area. It's good to see a mixture of people, since I think there's a lot to be learned from both camps.

 

[Sighs]

The general supporters area is not private. (As in - all members and guests can read it, including sufferers. Often their input is very helpful as it can give you an idea what your sufferer is going through.) There is another private area - I think you need to be added to it before you can see it.

 

[Warrior Chicken]

Hey @KayGee just wanted to say from the sufferer side...thanks for taking the effort to understand things. It’s a big step. It’s not an easy one, take care of yourself in this too cuz it will inevitably have an effect on you which is likely why you’re here.
No BS, as I’m sure you are aware (but I’m the one not used to sharing things) ptsd makes us do things that I would say are animalistic, raw survival type sh$t....I would never give you advice on your situation, but many times the things we do aren’t directed at you (but very easily interpreted as such). If it looks like that, then....does your partner have the support and resources that might help you both thru this?
If it doesn’t look like that then maybe boundaries need to be established....in my view this might help your partner too.