Meadowsweet
Diamond Member
Im reading a lot about therapy, both good and bad experiences, and one theme that seems to recur is that its important to choose the right therapist or the right therapy. But I'm from the UK and we have a national health system, which is wonderful because its free, but I dont know if I have any choices with regards to my therapy, or what I would do if it was awful.
I'll give a brief account of where Im at: I went to my GP first, she reffered me for an initial asessment with the mental health asessment person, who asked me lots of questions and got me ticking boxes etc. During the session he asked if I wanted to tell him about the trauma and I gave a brief overview of the most recent incident, but I was nervous and didnt want to open up to him at that moment. At the end of that session, he initially suggested cbt therapy to work on my trust and social issues. But in response, I mentioned that I'd like to be able to say things that have happened out loud (at the moment I feel like Im physically choking or will be sick if I try to speak about trauma). So hearing this, he suggested that I might be better with emdr therapy.
But he made it sound like its one or the other outcome. What I really want is to be able to form trusting, close friendships, and because Ive driven most of my friends away by not being able to explain whats going on in my reactions, I feel that being able to be speak openly about things is important to future friendships.
So Im confused and worried about therapy, but I really want to do it too. Its taken such a long time to get around to asking for help, and such a long time on waiting lists, that Im worried if it doesnt work, that I'll be back to square one. So, what happens in the UK if the therapy youre offered isnt effective? and...do you get offered a limited number of sessions and then get told to get on with it? or are you assessed again at the end of the initial treatment?
I'll give a brief account of where Im at: I went to my GP first, she reffered me for an initial asessment with the mental health asessment person, who asked me lots of questions and got me ticking boxes etc. During the session he asked if I wanted to tell him about the trauma and I gave a brief overview of the most recent incident, but I was nervous and didnt want to open up to him at that moment. At the end of that session, he initially suggested cbt therapy to work on my trust and social issues. But in response, I mentioned that I'd like to be able to say things that have happened out loud (at the moment I feel like Im physically choking or will be sick if I try to speak about trauma). So hearing this, he suggested that I might be better with emdr therapy.
But he made it sound like its one or the other outcome. What I really want is to be able to form trusting, close friendships, and because Ive driven most of my friends away by not being able to explain whats going on in my reactions, I feel that being able to be speak openly about things is important to future friendships.
So Im confused and worried about therapy, but I really want to do it too. Its taken such a long time to get around to asking for help, and such a long time on waiting lists, that Im worried if it doesnt work, that I'll be back to square one. So, what happens in the UK if the therapy youre offered isnt effective? and...do you get offered a limited number of sessions and then get told to get on with it? or are you assessed again at the end of the initial treatment?