Thanks @Innordinate, I have been in CBT for some years now and yes, it's helping loads. I am doing group therapy, and have done quite a lot in the last 8 years or so. Group stuff helps for sure.:)Is this not the basis of cbt?
You have to work to label the distortion and then find evidence against it to slowly change the beliefs.
It's been awhile since I've actively worked on cbt so I could easily be over generalizing.
Are the experiences that confirm the beliefs new or old experiences? Are your new experiences more positive? They seem so.
A spouse, kids and a couple friends sounds to me like a LOT of positive relationships, not just SOME. Maybe that's also a cognitive distortion?
If you moved a lot and hid in books on top of abuse.... are there programs or groups you can go to that will help you learn the socialization/life skills that you missed out on growing up?
Is it possible to join a book club or academics club of some kind? Hobby club?
Any of these plus the cbt work to overcome the cognitive distortions that might arise from them to give you some new positive experiences.