Upstate New York

[MouseWedger]

Just got back on the forum from a long stint of avoidance. This sounds like a great idea. Anyone get any concrete times yet?

 

[silentnight]

Hi MW not yet... I take lunch 12 to 1. Mon - Fri long stint of avoidance huh...:) I hear you... sometimes easier. Let me know.

 

[MouseWedger]

Hi Silent,
Yeah, sometimes avoidance is easier haha. I and usually out the door for work before one - my days off are Wednesday and Thursday but things are wonky for me right now. (I'm out of work for a surgery later on this weekend and I dunno when theyll be letting me back into work.)

 

[jean1960]

New to site just found this threat. I am a supporter from Towanda Pa area...

 

[inthistogether83]

I am a supporter near Syracuse NY.... anyone looking to talk just let me know

 

[MrsBrown]

Im here in the saratoga area

 

[LilacFaerie]

Waverly NY...........and I'm currently drunk and not caring if I even show up at work tomorrow. Is anyone still out there?

 

[jean1960]

Waverly NY...........and I'm currently drunk and not caring if I even show up at work tomorrow. Is anyone still out there?

I feel you Lilac! We are so close I live in Sayre, I'm out here - BF has combat ptsd been dating for a year he's been in an episode of avoidance etc for 5 months. You think its the onset of the Holidays that causes us to want to self medicate with alcohol 2 days out of the last 6 I was drunk....really out of character for me.

 

[LilacFaerie]

Jean1960, wow we really are neighbors, aren't we?? :) Well, I made it to work, but I'm not speaking to anyone....I nursed a little bit of a hangover, but all I had to drink was wine, not hard liquor. Yesterday was not a good day for me all the way around.

For me, self-medicating has nothing to do with the holidays.....it has everything to do with feeling misunderstood and accused of things I did not intend. And when I go to the one person who can make it all better, I get rebuffed.
I wonder why this was allowed to happen to me and my spouse (two years post-Afghanistan). And intellectually, I understand that I may never get an answer to that....but my heart needs one REALLY bad before I crack up completely. :dead:

 

[jean1960]

Lilac,
That illusive answer to "why us"! Hey if you get that answer can you please pretty please share!!!!!!!!!!! Some days I just think maybe it would be better for both of us for me to just walk away. My BF has been in avoidance now for 3 months the longest and hardest episode we have gone through. I miss him the man I met is not who I am with right now. I have physically seen him 4 times in 3 months and that was only for a few moments. You hang in there I know its tough and I understand you frustration and hurt oh too well.

 

[amethist]

Please keep this forum on topic of 'find a friend', then move your discussions to the appropriate forum, or the chit chat areas, or to PC. [DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/read-here-first-where-to-start.333/[/DLMURL]

 

[Changing4Best]

I was born in Schenectady, went to college in Brooklyn, but I ended up in North Carolina now. Just thought I'd say "HI!" anyway. NC is kind of not over populated in the first place, secondly I have only met one other person who is PTSD, but she is not able to drive and neither am I and we live 12 miles from one another. So, we take the whole day when we go to group and spend time together where group is at least. This way I can just pay for transport there and back, but not have to pay two transports, one there and then another to her home.