I have a friend that I care about very much that has isolation and avoidance issues. It hurts me especially on holidays and birthdays mine and hers have passed. We did talk briefly on hers. I thought Valentines day would be awful, because I knew I wouldn't hear from her or see her. But it wasn't I forgot that I made my first appointment with a therapist on that morning. I fortunately found a good one. Long story short I didn't get to see my friend but the first session was a real eye opener. My Valentines day present to myself was my first and not my last therapy session. It was a great day anyway.