EveHarrington
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I wish I could find the diagram, but essentially many of the good guys get snatched up early so they’re off the market while the bad guys stay on the market. If a good guy comes back on the market, he’s often snatched up quickly. This is why it seems like there are no good guys. For example, if 50% percent of the general guy public is good, but 90% of those guys are snatched up and unavailable while most of the crappy guys stay available, you go from 50% good guys to just 5ish% good guys. Crappy math!!!!
Don’t laugh but I met my boyfriend in partial hospitalization. Yes, we sat beside each other. Oddly enough we both hit bottom after spin outs of past relationships gone horribly wrong. (We were truly just friends for 8 months before getting together.) I know I’ve posted about our problems, but he is the safest guy I’ve ever been with. He is the only guy who has ever been able to fully calm me down with just a hug. (I feel safe around NO ONE.) My system knows he is safe, and given how hyper alert my system is to the tiniest of red flags, this says a lot. And hoo boy, have I tested him! In my past I was able to convince every guy I was with to hit me because it turned me on, because I wanted it, and they agreed to do it. My boyfriend won’t. In our fights I have lashed out so bad that I knew he’d get to the point of beating me, but he doesn’t. Even when I ask him to punish me, he won’t. There’s a lot more, I don’t want you thinking he’s safe for the sole reason of not beating me.
Don’t laugh but I met my boyfriend in partial hospitalization. Yes, we sat beside each other. Oddly enough we both hit bottom after spin outs of past relationships gone horribly wrong. (We were truly just friends for 8 months before getting together.) I know I’ve posted about our problems, but he is the safest guy I’ve ever been with. He is the only guy who has ever been able to fully calm me down with just a hug. (I feel safe around NO ONE.) My system knows he is safe, and given how hyper alert my system is to the tiniest of red flags, this says a lot. And hoo boy, have I tested him! In my past I was able to convince every guy I was with to hit me because it turned me on, because I wanted it, and they agreed to do it. My boyfriend won’t. In our fights I have lashed out so bad that I knew he’d get to the point of beating me, but he doesn’t. Even when I ask him to punish me, he won’t. There’s a lot more, I don’t want you thinking he’s safe for the sole reason of not beating me.
