Virtual online gathering for christmas day here....

[KwanYingirl]

Hi @420kitty . I have been known to make fresh whipped cream. All I accomplish listed today was changing strings on 2 guitars and oiling the fretboards. And I made pecan puffs.

It’s a weird Christmas not being with my kids. My mood is ok. My childhood memories are so few. I can’t remember any Christmases but of course that’s when my step grandfather would assault me. Then and then during the summer when we got dragged to the state they lived in.

So my Christmas traditions are all my ideas and the main tradition was to stay the hell away from my family.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

My mom did the same actually, wouldn’t let me see my grandma for 14 years and told me lies about her, said she didn’t love me etc. but when I got to see her finally I knew it was lies :hug: my grandma loved me and you love your grandkids, they will know that :hug:

I am so sorry this happened to you as well. This is so cruel to do to a child. I know that they love and miss me but I am afraid that they believe the lies about me now. Geez Rosie your mom is a real piece of work and did such cruelty to you. Thank you so much for telling me. I really appreciate hearing that you got back with your grandma that loved you. I had a special bond with those kids. It is brainwashing. I know that much. It is amazing that you are sane right now really. You are a true miracle of survival.:happy::hug::hug::hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

So my Christmas traditions are all my ideas and the main tradition was to stay the hell away from my family.

That was a good idea. I had to do that with my parents and sibs too. I am sorry for what you endured and am glad you are okay today.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 40995]

I am so sorry this happened to you as well. This is so cruel to do to a child. I know that they love and m...

Aw thanks Rain :hug: don’t worry, the time I had with grandma once i got to see her was wonderful, I knew when I got to see her that moms lies were all just cruelty meant to hurt grandma and I clung to grandma more then ever and we were very close :) Mom used to tell me my grandmother hated me because I took her sons attention away from her and that I’d spoiled her sons life- not true, mom told grandma at the same time I didn’t want to see her, both lies and luckily grandma saw through it and realized I really did want to see her and she worked even harder to convince mom to let me see her. Then one day mom took off in the car with me and stopped in front of her house, opened the door told me to get out and she drove away.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@Rain i have an APP I like called Allrecipes. You name it, you can find many versions of any dish you can think of and People review them. I found a superb lasagna recipe on there and sweets. I’m going to try my hand at Bundt cakes. My cakes are always dry.

I’m trying to think of something cool to make for New ayears aeve. My daughter and her fiancé are coming. I was thinking maybe a standing rib roast. Anybody know how not to mess that up?

 

[Deleted member 541]

So, the guy upstairs that he and I have had a couple of disagreements about noise. Me actually calling him a f*cking asshole at times, and he knew he was. Then having words with his girlfriend too. But we all really did get along, and things were ok. They took responsibility for the noise that they were making and we all go along.

So I gave them both a gift the other day. 2 scratch tickets and they won $100. I was so happy for them. They bought me a beautiful Orchid.

Just now there was a knock at the door, I asked who it was and this voice said, “Meals on Wheels”. I said I didn’t understand but opened the door. There was his girlfriend with a Christmas Dinner in her hand for me. HOW SWEET!!!! I was so humbled by such a sweet gesture.

Didn’t mention that I was a vegetarian and don’t eat sugar, but thanked her profusely. She left and I threw out the cake and ham, but ate everything else.

Really are some nice people in the world!!!!!!!!

 

[Changing4Best]

The one in my family that was bad and lied a lot was my father's father. We all disowned him when our dear grandmother passed away. He was my abuser too, of course. The reason I am PTSD was because of what he did to me when I was young. But I am so glad to be free of him, the last I heard from him was when I was in the 10th grade. What a relief that was, when he was out of our lives!

 

[Deleted member 40995]

So, the guy upstairs that he and I have had a couple of disagreements about noise. Me actually calling h...

That’s wonderful!

 

[KwanYingirl]

@Rosie11 im glad you discovered your Grandmother. Do you have any kind of relationship with your mother any more?

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Rosie11 Yes it really was, and sadly he is moving out this week, really is living with his girlfriend already..... I will miss him and his girlfriend and hope that they will keep in touch.

 

[Deleted member 40995]

@Rosie11 im glad you discovered your Grandmother. Do you have any kind of relati...

No, came to my senses eventually and cut ties with mom when I was 16ish. She was abusive both physically and verbally but also sexually in some instances and she knowingly handed me over to men she knew assaulted me and watched them handle me while I struggled and called for her, she just walked away. So I broke it off with her :/

 

[Changing4Best]

I just had a nice long talk with my nephew, FINALLY. He works retail, and as you can imagine, all they gave him for the last month was enough time to sleep every night. He has to work tomorrow too, of course, as all the gift cards get redeemed and folks bring returns... poor kid! I feel for him.