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@Rain? And please, no disrespect to anyone...
Thank you for asking the question and being responsible. I mean no disrespect to anyone either. I did not expect to get the response to this that it did and so many people started making plans that I was at a complete loss of how to deal with this situation. I apologize for not framing my idea better with good boundaries.
It comes down to this. I was talking to Rosie and came up with the idea to form a support group gathering for those of us who would be having a rough time with the holidays and be there for one another and simply vent, rant, support each other.
But, a few of those that wanted to be there simply took over without asking me if it was alright to do this. I consider this a boundary violation and disrespect to me. I understand that some people wanted to play but their disregard for me and taking over was something I allowed to go on because I was at a loss in how to deal with this situation and wanted things to unfold naturally.
On Christmas I was going to redefine the purpose of the gathering and all those members who wanted to play to enjoy themselves. I do not expect that this will be taken very graciously with some people and I am in no mood to play mental head games of hurt feelings and irresponsibility. I did not intend to hurt anyone, I wanted this to be a good thing
I believe in having some fun and even playing around a little, that is why I allowed it to happen. People were having fun. I in part just gave up and walked away and was going to redefine the purpose of the gathering that was an open invitation, and some individuals spoke for me, did not ask me, and just simply took over in their plans to have fun.
Perhaps I should have spoke up earlier but like I said I just gave up and walked away. So this is an opportunity for me to set some boundaries and form the intention once again.
If you live alone and have no family to spend time with, please come and share how you are doing and we will support and encourage you and try to lift your spirit. I am not trying to kick anyone out or hurt their feelings, yet I need to say some things.
You have taken over. Without regard for what I intended. If you only want to play then seriously go and take that into chat. More power to you. I have not named names so anything a individual that takes offense is doing a harm to themselves I think.
I wish I had been asked and shown that respect instead of just taking over and speaking for me because this is exactly what happened.
I understand that this is a PTSD forum and we all have rules to follow here or we get banned. That is what has made the forum the wonderful healing place it is. No one has any right to hurt feelings here, because I am speaking the truth. Maybe it is hard to listen to. My intent is not to hurt anyone.
Please just come as you are if you are interested in being supportive and receiving support. We can be friendly and all get along. Thanks for listening.
