Wait... So Is That Wrong?

[desiderata310]

Whoa! Sorry! I didn't mean to piss you off or anything! I'm just..

Well, quite honestly it kinda stung. It HAS been a rough few months. I mean we spent my first month and a half with me triggered out if my mind during sessions and suicidal because of EMDR. It's only been in the last few weeks that things have calmed down and I am beginning to feel like I did before I started therapy: mildly frustrated and sleep deprived but stable.

So maybe I SHOULDN'T bring that stuff to session with me. Maybe it should have a bearing on what happens there. I was grumpy and annoyed because I have been without my car since November (because of a huge move) and had to deal with things like getting my eyes and my kid's eyes checked and it took ALL FREAKING DAY.

But the reality of the situation is that it really has nothing to do with what happened to me in the past. So maybe I shouldn't drag that stuff along. Maybe unless it is something like me having a panic attack at work, it doesn't belong at my session. I don't know! I don't know how this works.

 

[Hope4Now]

Whoa! Sorry! I didn't mean to piss you off or anything! I'm just..

No sorries needed. Just some righteous anger on your behalf coming through!

 

[Hope4Now]

But the reality of the situation is that it really has nothing to do with what happened to me in the past. So maybe I shouldn't drag that stuff along. Maybe unless it is something like me having a panic attack at work, it doesn't belong at my session. I don't know! I don't know how this works.

I'm no expert at this stuff, and I have no idea what happened in your past.
I only started therapy in October. I didn't even know I had PTSD. I've figured out a lot since then, though. Enough to recognize that most anything that has stress and emotion attached to it is fodder for therapeutic work when it comes to PTSD. I was having real trouble in therapy at the beginning of the sessions...we'd say hello and the sociable stuff, then there would be an awkward silence. It made me really uncomfortable because it was like he was waiting for me to start, and I was waiting for him to start. So, I told him I never know where to start and shared how awkward I felt. We talked about this a bit, and I really liked that he said, "Everything is a trailhead. Let's just talk about what's foremost in your attention, and it will lead us to other things." So, that's what we do. And he's right. It does.

 

[atthree]

[quote="desiderata310, post: 659734, member: 24640]IE: I know that I "put things away" that I can't deal with at the moment.[/quote]

@desiderata310 Well worded and as far as compromise. Maybe this joker has met me once.

I forgive to a point, but if there behavior keeps reflecting witted sarcasm or revengeful.... They are smart enough to figure, so I just leave them to themselves.

 

[desiderata310]

Ugh! Sent the email. Now I really wish I hadn't. Got a text saying he had read it and that they are good topics to cover Wednesday. I shouldn't have said anything.

 

[shell]

Yes you should, if you can't be honest and open and ask questions then you will never be able to deal with the really hard stuff.

One thing I would do in order to avoid dealing with the real issues at hand, is to bring up the day to day stuff rather than deal with the issues that would make lasting changes. My last T refused to do trauma therapy while my life was a mess.

 

[scout86]

Ugh! Sent the email. Now I really wish I hadn't. Got a text saying he had read it and that they are good topics to cover Wednesday. I shouldn't have said anything.

ROTFL! I wish I had a dollar for every time I've thought THAT! If it makes you feel any better, in spite of the feeling of panic that comes with hitting the "send" button, it's always turned out to have been a good idea.