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[Eleanor]

Eleanor,
Saying affirming things like, I love you, you're a good person, I'm proud of you, we can handle this, seemed to help more than trying to say things like, "you're okay" because in their mind, they are absolutely not okay.

...I would just allow him to fully express his emotions verbally and then say "I bet that made you feel a lot of energy didn't it?" (Helping them recongnize energy in themselves helps in realizing they can chose what to do with the energy. (or are in control of it) Scarey experiences, anger and fear create a great deal of energy, its for our good, but when its an extreem situation or we don't have an outlet for it, it can become an interference.

The combination was great for inducing sleep. I don't think eating at night is a good habit to form but I found sometimes it was useful.

Thank you TranquilStream! I will try the other things - I will try the other things, I usually just tell her she's ok, everything's ok, but not to much effect I am afraid :(.

I also have made a point of teaching her to name and identify emotions. The thing about talking about energy is very helpful, I will work that in too...

How could I forget about snacks for going back to sleep? (My grandmother always had cinnamon rolls and warm milk for us... yum) Also, it was pretty hard to think the world was not right with my grandma across the table and a warm roll and some milk :) I will have something in reserve for that too...

I've read your post about four times today. I think I'll print it out too.:)

 

[TranquilStream]

I love what you said about your grandmother. I have a great picture of it in my mind and it gives me a good feeling! :) I hope some of those suggestions make things better. I'd love to hear if it does, or if you come up with something else too.