Was Verbally Abused Right After Therapy Today.

[Truthful_Whispers]

Whispering_Truth, I was raped by my own half brother.

No wonder you are a nervous wreck. I am sorry. By the way, my trunk can fit two assholes, along with a shovel and some lime. ;)

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I'm going to go out for a night drive and try to calm down. Thank you for your kindness. It means a lot to me.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

If I had a friend who had no pets, I would go and stay with them. I am allergic. :(

I would rather deal with the allergies..

 

[ReachingOutJ]

No wonder you are a nervous wreck. I am sorry. By the way, my trunk can fit two assholes, along...

Family is wretched, too. Scary, loud, insulting, drunk, and sarcastic.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I would rather deal with the allergies..

Violently allergic. Cannot do it.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Violently allergic. Cannot do it.

Stay in their garage of you have to. You are probably going to have to make some major concessions to get rid of that leech. I know it's difficult. Create the mindset that you are far more allergic to assholes. Go to a women's shelter if you have to.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Someone needs to stop by one night and read your bum bf this book..

 

[Friday]

Okay... If you absolutely have to be the one to leave (and I'm not saying that's the case, just working within an idea here, okay?).

Time to move.

Pragmatics

- If you own your house? You can either rent it out or sell it, up to you. Neither has to be decided now. First, move, then decide.

- If you rent? You'll already be in a new place before breaking your lease hits your rental report... But quite frankly, I've broken several leases over the years and it's never affected my ability to lease a new place. While the contract reads that I have to pay any "empty" months (until they can get a new renter)... I have also yet to have that be the case. It's always been re-rented before the month is up. Often, before the week is up. The 2 times I had to leave because of a boyfriend? The rental office was so thrilled that I was straight up leaving, instead of calling the cops over and over the next few months, that they waived the cleaning fee. <grin> One, the office manager had had a few bad boyfriends and totally hooked me up with a unit on another property, a moving crew, and painters :D All done in the space of an afternoon while he was gone.

- Where you move at first does not have to be permanent. Rent a room, or a pod, or something else super cheap for a month or three to save up first/last/deposit on a place you really want to be.

- DO NOT invite douche-canoe along with you when you move. That may sound like a no-brainer, but it can honestly be hard. Break up with him, do not allow him to stay with you "just a few days", do not give him a key, do not lend him your car, etc.

- Doormattery ;) ... If you left tomorrow? He'd have 3 weeks rent free to find somewhere else to live, or to choose to take over the lease himself. If you own? After you've moved... Gotten your own safe space... Give him till Sept 1st and then call the cops.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I understand what I have written may sound harsh, but the sad fact is, you have to get angry, aggressive, and sometimes even downright mean to these types of people. It is the only language that they understand. At my core, I am sympathetic, empathetic, and lenient. But, over the years--years of being hurt and taken advantage of--I have been forced to harden my heart some. What angers me the most is that people who are in pain, be it from physical or mental illnesses, are preyed upon all of the time by these unapologetic parasites. PTSD alone is hellish enough to live with--you don't need any more stress. In a perfect world, people would be understanding and nurturing of one another. But, in the real world, 90% of society will suck you dry of all life, and then simply move on to another victim. You must develop a side of you that is hard, angry, and self-preserving--a side of you that can at least be compartmentalized, and brought out if and when needed. If you don't develop this tougher "side-persona", this world (i.e. the darker side of humanity) will eat you alive. Sad, but true.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I understand what I have written may sound harsh, but the sad fact is, you have to get angry, a...

I used to be stronger. I used to have the strength to stand up for myself. It's been sucked out of me by emotional vampires in my family and out of it.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I used to be stronger. I used to have the strength to stand up for myself. It's been sucked out of...

Yes, they will wear you down, and drive any resistance out of you. As soon as possible, purge your life of any and all of these types of people, so you can begin to heal.

 

[Saint Nik]

I understand what I have written may sound harsh, but the sad fact is, you have to get angry, a...

I think I need lessons from you @Whispering_Truth and your name shouldn't be whispering, I believe it should be shouting, no, scrap that. . .screaming! You scream truth and I certainly hear you loud and clear! You speak a lot of sense!