ms spock
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dealing with ... I am going to be like this the rest of my life... wondering how I am ever going to have a relationship
I sometimes feel like I am stuck in one state and it feels awful. But it is not a fact that you will be like this for the rest of your life. Of course it feels like it and so that is not helpful. But facts are NOT feelings. I have done some pretty extensive research in to this area! (And you can remind me another time ;)) Feelings ebb and flow - except when you are stuck in one and that feels like it has always been and will always be that way.
When you are not feeling good about yourself and so it is easy to project this on to other people. I, too, have done this.