You might want to work on being assertive Sheila, rather than either coming across as ... Are you seeing at T that you can work on this stuff with?
I'm seeing a therapist, but we have not started in on this issue yet, as there have been other important things that have come up first. My worst issue right now has been my forgetfulness, which she even helps me with off the clock, by playing Scrabble with me on FB, which my Psychiatrist recommended I find a partner for.
I don't really expect my family, at least my sister's family anyway, to help me. I have already been informed that they will NOT do so under any circumstances. So I express my re$entment sometimes, it spills over, I cannot help it. And I really don't care what they think or how they react to it. Actions speak louder than words, so by their actions, I KNOW they don't really care.
They will go through the motions, at least this one does, of calling me once a month to tell me they
"love" me, but I know they
"LOVE" their Mercedes, their houses, their family (including rich in-laws), much more than they do me. Such is life. So if I protest once in awhile, that is my right and my priveledge. I need to blow off some steam somehow!
I'll try to get to this sometime soon in therapy, that is a MUCH healthier way to handle it, I agree.