What do I do if I am sexually attracted to my mom?

[The Friendly Goomba]

I've always been close with my mom. She's pretty much my best friend and is pretty much the only woman I associate with besides one or two female friends. My father died when I was like 4 and my mom never found another guy, so I've grown up without a father figure around. However, I have a problem. A very very bad problem. I've been having dirty thoughts and fantasies about my mom for almost two years now. It started about a year and a half after I started exploring my body and stuff, so like, 14-ish. Normal puberty things, ya know? I have these thoughts and fantasies about doing very intimate things with her. I don't want to get into detail about what these fantasies entail. Every time I have said thoughts, it breaks me internally. I feel so guilty, I know its wrong, I know I shouldn't see my mom that way, but I just can't help it! My mom is a very very attractive woman, not just in my opinion but just in general. She is an amazing woman but I don't know what to do. It also doesn't help that I am socially awkward around women my age. So you could say I "have no game", which has only made my problem worse with my raging hormones and shit. Do I talk to her about it and risk ruining our relationship? Or do I stay quiet as the guilt eats me up inside. Any advice, similar experiences, or anything at all is greatly appreciated. Thanks yall!

(Also if it helps, I am 16 and my mom is 40)

 

[anthony]

What does this have to do with PTSD? What trauma have you endured that gave you PTSD that is related to this?

 

[The Friendly Goomba]

What does this have to do with PTSD? What trauma have you endured that gave you PTSD that is related to this?

Well i mean... its not i just dont know where else to go for helpful responses. If this violates any guidelines then i can delete this post. My apologies

 

[Heather L]

I was molested by my brother and it caused me PTSD in that it made me very promiscuis which caused the shame i had about the molestation to be forgotten. This is more relevant than people say. Ur not alone! So how do we heal?

I think this is relevant to talk about. It is hidden in many people and places and we don’t deserve in some cases gas lighted for confronting the abuser or a family member.

 

[Ecdysis]

I agree, this can be seen as PTSD-prevention.

Hormones are crazy when you're a teenager and the subconscious is a strange place.

"Inappropriate" sexual attraction is something that so many people struggle with, in many different forms.

Getting help for it is useful so that it doesn't turn into something obsessive, but can just be an uncomfortable, passing phase.

 

[anthony]

If this violates any guidelines then i can delete this post.

It doesn't violate anything, but this is a website for those who have suffered trauma and those who have PTSD/CPTSD as a result of suffering that trauma. We aren't a website for naughty thoughts about your parents.

Look, you're young, you're horny as f*ck, and every chick becomes a thought. That is being a young male. You will redirect your thinking towards girls your age, and once you get laid, you will be much better. It sounds like you might be a virgin. Honestly, the best thing I could ever tell a young guy who is horny as f*ck and not getting sex yet, get a prostitute and learn how to treat a woman and the start of understanding having sex. Most young blokes venture towards prostitutes at some point to have sex, to learn sex, to understand the female body, etc etc. Online porn isn't going to teach you positive things you need to know. You're just young and horny going through puberty.

Talking about things is ok, but if you don't have a female your age who wants to have sex with you, to learn, then a prostitute can help you. Honestly, if you walked into your peer group and said you're a virgin, chances are a girl who does like sex might just do you to help you out. That could also backfire...

Sex is sex, it is normal, it is healthy, but there are attitudes you don't want to take towards it, and that is that you can take it or owed it, or any unhealthy method. That is creating trauma upon another, maybe even yourself. So the best way is to have consensual sex with a peer or a prostitute, ASAP, which will mature you and help you. You won't be thinking about your mum once you have sex.