What Have You Learned That Made You Feel Empowered

[Deleted member 37085]

Before forum, I never knew that I am - enough. I am enough.

 

[intothelight]

I am only responsible for my own happiness and peace and no one else's. "People pleasing" is dead. :D

 

[Deleted member 37085]

I totally agree with @intothelight! And also I wanted to add here there for me indeed are seemingly high-powered bullies in this world ie. food industry, political/big "cancerous" governmental institutions (numerous), etc. And although I too am not at all into people pleasing, I must also realize, come to terms with, and adhere at times to certain more rigid and more stringent forced by society protocol/diplomacy, etc. in order to maintain "cultural" status quo in my personal life. I do try and articulate my feelings and needs yet still in only my reality still, I must try and contend with those above-referenced institutions, corporations, and numerous people who try and subjugate and dominate, and beat down others in their attempts to conquer and "win" all in order for me to stay here in this world and be a part of the bigger picture only when I am forced to.:whistling:

And, I do not like having to deal with the attempts of subjugation and domination by others of me, and although I do not believe in people pleasing, I know that at times I must and do conform and shape and contour my "self" to fit certain "norms" and mores in our society, I must ir completely isolate and crawl into a hole!:headphone: Peace and Love:happy:

 

[Justmehere]

A reminder for all: clicking "reply" to super short posts will often quote the whole thing. If you are replying to something super-short, please either tag the person you're talking to with the @ symbol, or shorten the post even further, to the most relevant piece.

Thanks!

 

[Heather]

Being persistent and on top of things...gets stuff done.

 

[MrMoonlight]

Someone on this site posted for me a link to cognitive distortions. Knowing about "mind reading" has helped me recognize and prevent the downward spiral that usually follows this type of thinking. All this stuff is new to me and don't feel so weird or isolated knowing there is a term for the way I sometimes think. I can't thank this person enough...

 

[Ironlady]

That I can can be a mess and fall apart and the world doesn't end and I can put myself back together and when I do I don't have to put myself back together the same way.

 

[SophiaWisdom]

Thanks for such a GREAT thread! I so need this today :)

I'm finally learning that feelings are transient and even illusory. They don't have to be trusted as "signs" and I can also change them by changing my thoughts (mind blowing to me.) I have a choice in how I perceive events. Still practicing this every moment, every day.

Cheers!

 

[ms spock]

Self Compassion made me feel empowered.

 

[Deleted member 37085]

Gut-wrenching self-honesty and am in process of taking off those rose-colored glasses which in turn helps me to feel a tad bit more empowered...working on this...

 

[Chiqui]

Selfclarify what I need and search for it.

 

[The Albatross]

"Before potential, there is a motivation. Before motivation, there is an emotion. & before emotion, there is your reality." ~ Shawn Achors