What Is All This Stuff About Your Feminine/masculine Side?

[PerfectlyFlawed]

I just wanted to add, my T talks about the 'fight/flight'

Fighting is a masculine trait.
Fleeing and being scared is a female trait.

 

[rightkindofme]

Fighting is a masculine trait.
Fleeing and being scared is a female trait.

This is the kind of thing that bugs me. I am the most aggressive, ready for a fight person I know.

 

[PerfectlyFlawed]

That's why people think I am a weirdo, I am feminine. But I'll fight you if I have to...

 

[nursenurse]

LhasaLover, I quieted my male animus. I divorced him.

 

[LhasaLover]

Nursenurse & Rightkindofme

Humor never goes unnoticed or unappreciated! Yes, kick that animus to the curb.

Rightkindofme, the animus is the male counterpart in the female. A male according to Jung doesn't have an animus. Jung's male/female labels are a bit dated. I know a lot guys who are quite sensitive and alternatively would not like to be labelled feminine. Trying to take it all in... Did a bit of reading today and that was my takeaway.

I've been reading about our the female animus and it gets weirder before it gets clearer.

It's going to take time for me to wrap my head around this one, it's a stretch.

Due to my exhaustion I am going to rest all parts of my mind... :sleep:

 

[The Albatross]

My animus is like the Incredible Hulk. It is pent up rage and I don't like it one bit. It is very unbecoming of a female too. I can be vicious and seek to over power with rage or cruelty when provoked. Not as often now as in my 20's and 30's. I put him on a leash until I could get down to business and deal with the rage. It has improved and he is mild mannered like Bill Bixby now

 

[PerfectlyFlawed]

My animus is like the Incredible Hulk. It is pent up rage and I don't like it one bit.

I LOVE how you just describe it! How do you deal with the rage? If you don't mind me asking.

 

[nursenurse]

Even more tamed since the Bix is dead, lol.

 

[Rumors]

You know this theory was composed by a man. Nuff said!

I just want to know why men think that the masculine side is the strongest? Women have babies, raise the family, work, breast feed, and all the things a guy would have an utter melt down doing. Next time you therapist decides to recite Jung, I think I would say he had it all wrong as you are in touch with your feminine side, the masculine side is the weenie. ;)

Sorry, but that theory sucks in my opinion. I don't think strength needs to have a gender. Strength has a face and that is all that counts. Any attempt to make it male or female discounts its importance to the person that has provided it. Good luck!

 

[The Albatross]

How do you deal with the rage?

For me it was deciding to lead a life based on spiritual principles (I went back to Christianity) and I also was taught the correct use of the anger emotion. It has been a lot of self discipline. It wasn't easy but it has greatly improved.

 

[rightkindofme]

In contrast I am looking to Buddhism and meditation because Christianity isn't a path for me. All ways are The Way if you want them bad enough. :)

 

[The Albatross]

Right, that's why I said "life based on spiritual principles". If I endeavor to live a life based on principles, I am less apt to give in to my emotional self because I am endeavoring to pursue something I value.