Poll What Is Your Stance On Hugs?

[Prickly Daze]

I have mixed feelings about hugs. I used to get them from friends before my trauma, but betrayal from friends and my former best friend as my abuser really shunt that stream of good feelings from that contact. Now it's a problem in my family because they want to hug and feel rejected personally when I don't reciprocate. They are aware of my abuse, but they don't ever bring it up, they don't know how to respond when I bring it up, and I don't fell like I can't tell them.

 

[Anrish]

Hugs is a very difficult matter for me. The only person who is allowed to hug me is my best friend whenever she wants to. It took me years to endure hugs of my family. I hurt them with my behaviour and I feel sorry for it - but I could only reject them. Hugs given by women became a routine I learnt to deal with. Hugs given by men are a different matter. I still stiffen and have to fight the urge to run away. Some closer acquaintances (who are no threat ) hug me and I got used to it - but I still try to avoid it by other men.

 

[midnightblue56]

There are people who can walk up to me and hug or put their arm around me. There are others who try and my skin crawls! Example: my bff's husband... IDK why but I can not stand him touching me. He is a decent guy, he is a hugger, there shouldnt be a reason why he bothers me but i get the creeps.

Then there are the people who know between than enter my personal space as I tend to pull the "insta-bitch" card.