Being accused of having selfish motivation for giving my husband a foot massage despite the fact that there are few thing I hate doing less. He is working two jobs so I thought he earned it. He never showed appreciation and I got my feelings hurt. Next day he says I don't care about how exhausted he is. I brought up the foot massage along with a dozen other things to try and help make his life easier. I tell him "So, you can stop saying I don't care." He hears in his mind me saying, "I only did these thing to get you to stop complaining." In fact, he insists that was a direct quote from me.
He does this all the time and I am sick of it. He will also have arguments in his head with me, when he thinks I am going to be mad about something he is about to tell me. So, instead of starting off the conversation with "I need to tell you something" he starts accusing me saying things about a situation I didn't even know about until. Why do people do this?:mad::mad::mad::mad::arghh;