What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[PurpleSurvivor]

"You're grown up now, stop dwelling over the past"

So moving to a place where I can go outdoors without a major risk of being triggered by some place isn't enough? I'm never allowed to mention it again? Bottling things up inside didn't exactly work for me.

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

"You need to get out of the past".

Really? I LOVE living in it. Especially when imposes itself on me through flashbacks. It's spectacular really. Who would have ever thought I wouldn't want to leave the past behind me. Genius.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Genius blackbird. Thanks for making me laugh. Good to know I'm not the only one that feels that way with such a comment. I love when people say that lol

 

[tired of the fight]

I'm so tired of the ignorant things people say.

You summed it up quite well BlackBirdRising

Oh yes we just love living like this! NOT!!!!!!

 

[Tanishq]

"You probably feel this way because you aren't working right now."

"You're grown up now, stop dwelling over the past"

When people talk to me like this, my next move is go away from them because it gives me feeling that they are not interested in helping me or have a good talk. It's a sign they just want to say somethings and think on short term fixes which are not going to help us anyways.

Talking like that can hurt you. Make you feel discouraged and also invalidated.

 

[tired of the fight]

Heard some words from a family memeber today.

Before you know it will be gone

You need to just

And a remark about my son , that laid another already carrying guilt comment :(

They said, I'm just telling you this for your own good!!

I said I already know what I'm lacking.

This brings me down so much

DISCOURAGED again :(

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Sorry tired of the fight. That must really hurt. Sounds like an abusive thing to say to someone. I wish everyone were required to take a life course to learn what abuse is and learn what validation, minimization, etc means. It sure would make things easier.

Can I give you a hug?

 

[Mercy]

Talking like that can hurt you. Make you feel discouraged and also invalidated.

Thanks for speaking up. I get my buttons pushed when my H says,"but you've done almost 20 years of expensive therapy. Why are you still like this (anything scary)" Aren't you ever going to get better. I'm sick of this!" That really pushes my abandonment button big time.

 

[tired of the fight]

I'm sure it does. The thought of being abandoned is scary. My D says it's been 3 yrs. As though I should be better again. Ugh. I'm sick of it too!!

 

[Abstract]

Its amazing how common "pull yourself right" comments are.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

I wish the world were more sensitive to mental health issues. Maybe I can do something in the community to help raise awareness.

 

[PurpleSurvivor]

Another one is "I'm in the same situation". Really? Okay, I'll describe the situation I'm in and what I've been put through. And guess what? It turned out that it wasn't even similar. She might as well have been telling someone with a broken leg that she's been in the same situation because she scraped the knee when falling of a bike or something like that. Bonus points since I had told her things that were much different before the comment was made.