What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[BlankCanvas]

Thanks for the link Fin. I really like what is written there. :) And I like what your therapist had to say Lisa, it's great.

 

[lagemela]

"Just think you were bitten by a dog and move on"

"You are going crazy"

"At least you were not raped by a stranger"

"Ok, fine, it was all your fault. Everything. So just get over it."

From my sister: "I can't deal with you anymore. I can't take care of you 24/7. I have my own life too"

my response to these people: Why don't you go through the same thing as I did. If you can't survive what I went through, yall have no right to tell these things to me.

 

[fin]

I really hate it when people say to me that they are not the type "to sugar coat or mince their words" and use it as an excuse to be mean.

Own your own crap and be big enough not to hide behind something that can be a real strength if used properly.

I say..."If you have super powers- try using them for good!!" But try keeping it real because it might help more people somehow and better.

I have PTSD I am not a pussy nor am I afraid to hear the truth. You have something to say...say it to me...don't make excuses and hide behind shit.

There are people in this world that have PTSD and dont need it to be sugar coated...so I think; don't try to make us feel like we are weak or that we need in some way to hear purile crap like this before you then get mean.

Own it... you think like that?.. I say own it.

Don't "mince" it up and pretend to "sugar coat" something, by saying crap like this to me first, like you say you don't do. Own your own thoughts and feelings I say, and let me get on with owning mine!!!

wow...wtf?
~fin

 

[fin]

Oh and I want to say, I know that there are people here that say this "not sugar coating" thing, and I am not necessarily talking about you, so please be cool. I know many do keep it real by saying this and thats all good.

I have just found that some people abuse the crap out of this expression, and DO abuse me and I am sure others through it, and I am trying to get a better handle on seeing them for what they are. So I know it isn't everyone ...

~fin

 

[Holly89]

Most of the nasty comments I've gotten have come from my grandmother, her greatest hits include:

"Get over it"
"Are you really that much of a freak?"
"Grow up"
"Stop being such a loser"
"You're condoing her doing this" (That one was said to my mom. I would have a very hard time living on my own, so by mutual agreement my mom and I live together even though I'm 20)

 

[fin]

You know I am a PTSD sufferer and some days you can't say anything to me!!

I have to live with that

Perception

 

[Manic11]

In a nutshell, I think these people who do say/think these things... just shouldn't talk. :rofl:

But seriously, if you don't know about something, you either ask about it or don't say anything at all. For example when you see someone in a wheel chair... you don't stare at them. If you are curious, go up to them and ask them about it. Otherwise, continue on with your own business...

But then again... PTSD is a mental illness, not physical...therefore it gets no understanding or respect...>.<


Manic

 

[purplejaz]

Thanx to everyone for giving me a laugh this morning....so good to know everyone else feels the same. Here is my latest saying to ward off those so-called know it alls:

"I don't like my insanity...I ENJOY it!"

If that doesn't do it for you try this..."There is nothing wrong with me...it's everyone else who has the problem!"

 

[amethist]

After one too many motorcycle accidents, and this last one definitely not being his fault, a few of his friends have come out with a few really good statements like,

" what's your problem you've had accidents worse than this before"

Or " It wasn't that bad you only had a broken foot and bit of a problem with your knee and they are fixed now"

Or even the classic " You need to get out more that's all "

If only it was as easy as what they say.

Amethist

 

[SGT Bilko]

Have you ever killed anyone!!?? That's got to be the most disrespectful thing that anyone can say to a vet. Unfortunaly its usualy Halo playing 16 year olds. Please god give ME the strength to accept the fact that I want to choke them, the power to not black out and wake up in a pool of blood and a good lawyer to help me through it when I do.

Never ask a vet if they have killed. It is messed up.

SGT Bilko
-Killer

 

[Tinyflame]

I'm sorry you've had to go thru that SGT.

All I can think that would come to me hearing that ridiculous, thoughtless comment is "not until now".

 

[sky dancer]

"You've imploded, just meditate on loving kindness."

"You're over-identified with your suffering, just detach."

"Just be in the moment".