When You Just Want To Quit

[Elphaba]

When you just want to quit and have had enough, enough, enough - what do you do to get up? Where do you find a reason to get up? I could really use some input if anybody has any. Currently I feel like the only thing left to do is to quit everything - from therapy to relationships to getting up and dressed.

 

[Nighthawk]

I have been in that state many times. I guess just putting one foot in front of the other has helped me as hard as that sounds, I just continue going through the motions. I have managed to do lots of harm to myself during these phases. In the most recent one I have pushed all my friends away, I no longer feel as though I should try, I lost my confidence in my work and I keep spilling over for others to see, not something I like too do. I have backed out going to my T regularly, I have weaned myself off my meds. Although I have done all of this I feel stronger today, I am scared of were I might be in a month, a week, an hour, or even in the next 5 min. No matter were I am I too will have to put one foot in front of the other.

I really don't know if this helps you at all but if not try to find one thing to get you out of bed in the morning.
your pets
your garden
brushing your teeth
seeing the dew on leaves
or even just the sound of silence.

Good luck my thoughts are with you.

NH

 

[Elphaba]

thanks.

How long do these phases last for?
I feel it would be easier to just not try at this stage. And maybe there is just as much point in quitting as continuing now.

I hope you continue to feel strong.

My puppy sometimes do get me out of bed. But its becoming harder and harder.

 

[Nighthawk]

I guess the way I see it is as a broken ferris wheel some rounds are good some rounds are bad and other rounds are just plain awful. I can not say how long they last but I do believe that if you were about to quit you would not have asked for advice. Just one step at a time.

Maybe bring the puppy in your bed and play with it just to see the innocence the pure joy and the unconditional love they share is so genuine.

Send me a note anytime
NH

 

[Deleted member 5760]

Yup, see every small step as a giant leap. Because in the world of PTSD we often tend to not recognise just how far we are coming.

 

[jesse]

Every once in awhile it helps me to reflect back on some moment in my life where I felt good. It doesn't have to be big for example I like to think about a fun day I had fishing a few years ago with my friend or elk hunting with my ex. Maybe that sounds dumb but it helps sometimes kind of gives a little glimmer of hope that you have the ability to feel good even if it is only for a moment in time.

 

[PTSDT]

I want to quit all the time. I don't really see my improvement so much as I continue to feel exhausted and feel I am going too slowly and not doing enough. Feedback from others say it is happening. They say they can see me getting better, getting a little more focus in problem solving.

The therapy is so hard. I have skipped one session out of the last 8 and I allowed myself to do it knowing I was going to go to the next appointment and I did. A good therapist expects it. I have also skipped a couple of days of homework over the last 10 weeks.

I have just decided that I am going to do it. I am going to my appointments. A friend has offered to go with me and drive me home after appointments. That made a big difference.

I want to quit all the time. Then, I don't.

 

[Elphaba]

Thanks guys! thank you so much for your tips and encouragement. Sorely needed right now. It really helps coming by here!