Where Are All The Men?

[jods]

I'm sure that nugget would be posting more often but being mr mum he is busier now I'm at work.

I'm sure he will be here when he can to deliver his wonderful stories as only nugget can!

 

[Andre]

::Pokes head up in best imitation of a prairie dog:: I was not well for a while but more than that I have been hiding in the private sections to avoid the public developments. This place seemed to get very strange for a while, too many little arguments and almost a jockeying for position it seemed. I prefer to just stay out of that kind of thing.

 

[anthony]

Good to hear nugget is up and well jods.

The problem with men is that its a common belief within their own world that they are smarter than women. It is factual proven that women are actually more intellectually intelligent than men. Women have more capacity than men to remember and retain knowledge. Men use more commonsense, women do not. Women are more bitchy and territorial with one another than men are with one another, hence why men often are put in charge because they are not territorial.

It is not because men are smarter they are often in charge of companies, corporations; it is a misconception that one. It is because they simply get the job done, not necessarily more efficient than a female would, though with the least amount of conflict and the aim is typically achieved.

More and more companies are now changing, because they are seeing with their own eyes the greater impact a female can have on a corporation in order to make money. Slowly the corporate world is changing to more female CEO's, and no doubt within a decade or two you will find the majority are female. I think this also has a lot to do with upbringing. In that the current CEO's are dedicated to their jobs, the are hands on people, like to learn and get dirty so to speak. The generation today want to do less, achieve less, though reap the same rewards. Basically, males are becoming quite lazy yet females still have not changed that much. This will only add to eventual female domination in the corporate world, and males will do a role reversal with once again relearning how to work through being stay at home dads. This will change males perceptions and attitudes IMHO in the next generation, which will do another role reversal at a rough guess. I think it will near become cyclic actually.

 

[Nicolette]

Go girlfriend! In business that is :wink:

 

[dljwhitewolf]

Both men and women are needed, I'm sure alot of soldiers are reading the forum, but possibly are too close to the violence they have just witnessed and need more time to adjust before coming on in and sitting down close to the fireplace, we have here, and so very lucky to have this forum, I'm sure before long we will get newer men, and some of the older ones may be on mental vacation, as I had been for a long while.
Here's hoping the male influence comes on back home.

 

[Claire]

Just thought I'd refresh this and welcome all the new guys that are posting on the forum. I truely believe it makes for a better balance to the forum.

Good to have you here!

 

[Nicolette]

Agreed :smile:

 

[cec]

I think there is a relationship between posting on this forum and talking to others whom I know and meet. I'm asking myself "am I an atypical male, why am I posting on this forum for I never talk about my PTSD to anyone, yet I post here. I think any reluctance I have in posting is more related to shame/doubt rather than a distorted idea that I can handle it. I have not posted anything that I have not wished I didn't write--no delete key. I wonder, if posts could be deleted, would males delete more than females? I think shame/doubt silences both genders; I just wonder if males with PTSD are more prone to shame because they feel they should be able to handle it as stated above.
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[cragger65]

Thanks Claire, it's nice to be appreciated around here!! I couldn't agree more with you Cec, all along this road, with my therapist, with everyone, it has never been this false notion that "I can handle this on my own", it is the deep sense of shame and the fear of being judged harshly that has been my biggest stumbling block.

I still cringe sometimes when my T reminds me of something I said or talked about in the past. The vulnerability in some of it is startling. I'm sure I will feel it again as I come across older posts of my own here.

Anyway, we need more guys, less girl talk, rar, rar, rar... just kidding ;)

 

[patrick]

Definitely prone to shame, and a good bit of denial. Had PTSD for 38 years before I was willing to even consider I had a problem. Now that the diagnosis is confirmed I still tend to think I don't have it very bad and can handle it. I don't talk about it much in the outside world so it's really good to have the forum. Aside from the positive feedback I get here, it's also a lot easier to talk about problems, ask questions, and gain insights in relative anonymity. And besides, I feel a lot less threatened around women than I do with men.

 

[cragger65]

That's interesting you mention that Pat, I also feel more comfortable with women. That is natural to a degree, I think, but part of it for me is that in my experience men are more judgemental, less understanding and accepting. Nice to voice it somehow.

 

[Nicolette]

I also feel more comfortable with women

That's cause we're so nice :wink: