Why do i have to be so sensitive??

[Punky143]

Co-worker comes into the office and says hi to every person- but me. Like it was a deliberate action. And my feelings are hurt. And all the parts talk and give their opinions towards that as well as morphing into every single self hatred. This is going to be a long lonely day

 

[ladee]

Sorry this is happening. It would hurt my feelings too... If there is some way we can help you, let us know... maybe we can break it down and see what is going on.. hope you have a better day in spite of how it started.

 

[joeylittle]

Like it was a deliberate action.

But you don't know that, right?

Stopping yourself from leaping to cognitive distortions will go a long way towards changing how you experience the world.

You don't have to be sensitive.

I empathize. I easily take things much too much to heart, if I don't interrupt and re-direct the thinking. It really does get faster and easier the more you practice it.

Do you know how you might have challenged or shifted the thought 'she's ignoring me on purpose'?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

It really does get faster and easier the more you practice it.

Agreed.

This is something I just learned about myself. A ton of it has stuck and I was then "teaching back" CBT to my step mom, whom has many distorted thoughts. But I wasn't meaning to "teach back". I just did.

Co-worker comes into the office and says hi to every person- but me. Like it was a deliberate action.

What if he didn't see you? Or what if his mind was thinking about something else and didn't think to say hi to you? What if he was in a hurry and/or distracted? So many reasons could explain this other then "he doesn't like me and didn't say hi on purpose"!

I have done that to others because of the other listed reasons and more. Think of when you may have done the same thing he did but didn't do it on purpose. Many times that helps too. To turn the situation around.

I would certianly say this is distroted thinking and working this through a thought record would REALLY help. I think so anyway.

Cognitive Therapy, CBT, Thought Record/ Thought Review

I live by thought records and use them every single day. It really has helped and as I said, they stick more and more the more you do them. To the point that it becomes second nature.

I also take everything to heart like this. I did this many times a day every day. I empathize with this as well but it is still a distorted thought that needs to be challenged!

 

[Deleted member 541]

If this person really did ignore you on purpose, ask yourself a question.... Would I really want to be friends with this person, or even be social with them????