blackemerald1
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Very normal boy behaviour.. I had two and they're adults now. :wtf:
^You've done the right thing. You're calm and trying to guide him to recalibrate. It's a skill that he will, eventually, get the hang of I hope.
Completely normal. Everything they think or feel is far more important than anything else. Till it isn't.
Daughters are completely different. Mature differently and at a different rate.
Try not to compare.
^Yes. Mine did. Attitude like crap. And all of the rest. It's a phase.
^Yes - and definitely a stage in development.
^Mine were the same. Or the best friend periodically got tossed for another best friend.... and then there were too many and then they were lonely. ...shrug... roll with the punches bc everything was different. I woke up to different attitudes and priorities from them every day.
^Stay grounded. Stay calm. All of what @Friday said. You cannot reason with a lot of their stuff. So keep your own counsel. It's okay to be confused bc they are too. A lot of what they say and do is actually confusing.
^Yes. It will seem agonising for a while. But hang in there and try not to take his erratic child like behaviour to heart.
^ Yes!! This. He's very lucky he has a dad that is listening and caring and noticing.
You will come through this Innordinate and he will grow up so fast from here on it. Don't blink. He's looking to you to be his rock. The man and he will echo and mirror much of what you say and do. But he will also be entirely different too! Does that make sense? lol.... It will be okay. One day at a time. Hugs are still important.
Very normal boy behaviour.. I had two and they're adults now. :wtf:
Not sure how to help him if he's not even going to try to settle himself down so we can have a discussion.
Not sure if this is even normal behaviour for his age. A boy thing?
I don't remember my older daughter acting this ... i dunno, dysregulated?.. ever!
^You've done the right thing. You're calm and trying to guide him to recalibrate. It's a skill that he will, eventually, get the hang of I hope.
Completely normal. Everything they think or feel is far more important than anything else. Till it isn't.
Daughters are completely different. Mature differently and at a different rate.
Try not to compare.
Anyone elses kids go through this nasty rage type of stage- where everything is urgent right now and the normal speaking tone seems to be snarky and volume is at screech level almost constantly?
^Yes. Mine did. Attitude like crap. And all of the rest. It's a phase.
and everything ive googled says 10 almost 11 is puberty age so... maybe hormones?
^Yes - and definitely a stage in development.
This kid is normally really caring and kind. the amount of empathy he has for people is crazy. i cant even kill spiders. he looks for healthy food to eat, has a ton of interests, plays team sports, has a bunch of buddies... no best friend though, which is apparently a "thing"
^Mine were the same. Or the best friend periodically got tossed for another best friend.... and then there were too many and then they were lonely. ...shrug... roll with the punches bc everything was different. I woke up to different attitudes and priorities from them every day.
just wtf do i do with/for him in the meantime?
^Stay grounded. Stay calm. All of what @Friday said. You cannot reason with a lot of their stuff. So keep your own counsel. It's okay to be confused bc they are too. A lot of what they say and do is actually confusing.
will try and remember this is a phase and he'll get over it fast each time...
^Yes. It will seem agonising for a while. But hang in there and try not to take his erratic child like behaviour to heart.
I don't want to hear you say you're a bad Dad anymore. A bad Dad wouldn't even care to try to figure it out. Let alone ask people for ideas or read a parenting book. You are a great Dad.
^ Yes!! This. He's very lucky he has a dad that is listening and caring and noticing.
You will come through this Innordinate and he will grow up so fast from here on it. Don't blink. He's looking to you to be his rock. The man and he will echo and mirror much of what you say and do. But he will also be entirely different too! Does that make sense? lol.... It will be okay. One day at a time. Hugs are still important.