Why is sex so difficult?

[CaraG]

I have sexually abused as a child repeatedly and as an adult. I really started dealing with my trauma for the past two years. I started having acupuncture at the suggestion of my therapist. More things started coming back. Now every time I get intimate with anyone even just kissing. I start having realizations or snippets of memories because I repressed everything. It has probably been 23-24 years and it still haunts me. I am 34 and single never married and no children. Mainly because who wants to be with the girl who has flashbacks if you just touch her wrong, kiss her wrong, or say the wrong thing. It's like a minefield of triggers. Sucks!

 

[EveHarrington]

The right guy is going to want to be with you regardless of your sexual triggers and flashbacks. It CAN get better as you process your trauma and heal.

 

[mamachick]

I agree about the "right guy", but what are the chances of meeting the "right guy". Im sorry I am pessimistic, but I am much older and it just hasn't happened. I have a husband of 30 yrs that doesn't get any of this, so now we just stay in separate areas of the house-not much of a relationship, but I do accept who I am and my limitations as well as the relationship for what it is. If you can solve this early on, that would be the best, as the older we get, I think we just become more accepting to "what is", even if it means a chronic depression that doesn't even seem like depression because it becomes normal. But that is just my opinion.