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General Why is he being SO DIFFICULT

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My combat vet PTSD sufferer boyfriend seems to make everything SO difficult when it really doesn't need to be. Just as a recent example, on Friday he asked to go get dinner. I could tell he was exhausted and suggested we get takeout instead, but he insisted we go out. But then he was super withdrawn the whole time and would barely even look at me. It was so uncomfortable, but I just let it go. The next day, he didn't get in touch at all until almost 8 at night with a text saying "yo, what are you doing tonight." By then, I assumed I wouldn't hear from him at all and was so annoyed that he reached out so late in such a rude way. I made the mistake of not answering back because I was upset and just went back to watching TV, but then he sent me a barrage of texts saying why wasn't I answering him, and that I'm "so shady" and so "f*cked up," which clearly led us to fight and kind of ruined the whole weekend. We finally talked everything out last night, and I assumed we were ok. So early today I called him to invite him to come hang out with me at the pool, to which he replied he didn't know what he was going to do and would let me know. I invited him again around lunch, and he told me it was "too little too late." WTF?! I truly don't understand, and rather than tell me what's really going on, he throws it all back on me like it's all my fault. It's like I can't win and is just so darn exhausting.
 
Maybe 9/11 approaching? Anniversary of a buddies's death? Or another anniversary? Even a med change? (You said he looked exhausted and was withdrawn).
 
Yes, every year he nosedives almost like clockwork starting around now through the end of the year. I have no idea what it is because he won't open up to me. In addition, he's extremely stressed with nursing school.

He also doesn't get much sleep.
 
I will recommend you drop the passive aggressive behaviour on your part and approach him as independent as you can rather than depending on him to make you happy. You are way too reactive for him and I think it is hard to say honestly if you also do not have your own PTSD like symptoms.
 
I will recommend you drop the passive aggressive behaviour on your part and approach him as independent as you can rather than depending on him to make you happy. You are way too reactive for him and I think it is hard to say honestly if you also do not have your own PTSD like symptoms.

Um, what.
 
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