See I don't even remember what happened there with my previous LTR. We lived together, he visited friends and while we were apart we both thought the relationship had run it's course, came back together had a mutual ending and then I have no idea what happened after that until I was getting in trouble at work for not completing things and getting complaints due to shutting down so bad. Almost failed out of grad school. You have to be doing really really poorly to even get a B in most grad programs I'm familiar with.That would be true with the majority of breakups, unless someone was fleeing for their safety and even then there is usually some planning involved? I lived with my ex for 5 months after we split up , and that was without children, as it took time to digest the split and then working out living arrangements.
I have a vague memory of my former PCP calling my experience atypical depression and starting me on meds. But then basically nothing until I had to withdraw from school and move back in with my abusive mother bc I couldn't function well enough for anything else.
So yeah... That's my last experience of a breakup. I guess I understand better now after writing that out why it's hard to consider now. I have a kid. I can't shut down and disappear like that.