<chuckling> Still no childhood trauma, here.When you move from childhood to adulthood is an important time in finding that but if that process is interrupted by trauma then the person may have problems developing that sense.
Which means I would posit it’s far less about age, than trauma, itself.
And when does a sense of worthiness turn into a sense of entitlement? An overstated sense of worthiness.
Entitled to basic human rights.
Entitled to equal treatment under the law (housing, education, employment, property, etc.)
Entitled to… ?
I think we can, most of us, agree on 2 things about entitlement
1. It’s an ideal, that is hardly a given. An important ideal, but still something that falls far short of what many people can expect. Either due to individual disagreement (people who refuse to rent to, sell to, hire, teach, etc. anyone who is _________); or whole nations disagreeing with what outside parties agree upon. (Like nations for whom what are views as human rights violations outside of that county are codified into into their law.)
2. It means that these are rights which are conferred by OTHERS. A group of people get together and decide on the rules that everyone else plays by. Whether that’s title transfer amongst the nobility; or if 2 lesbians are not allowed to buy a condo whilst 2 sisters are, or if no woman is allowed to own property, or if any widow may do whatever the f*ck she wants with her property with whomever; or if there is freedom of or from religion (America v France), or, or, or, or.
So I would argue that at NO point does self worth, excessive or lacking, confer entitlement.
Instead, it’s the opposite, a devaluing of others that we read as “I am MORE entitled than you.”
Which may seem like semantics? But I think it’s a key distinction that there is a HUGE different between how much one values themselves, and how much they value/devalue others.
The most inspirational/exciting people I’be ever known? Do NOT operate on the whole “in order for me to win, you must lose” paradigm, but instead? Have tremendous self-worth, that they automatically confer equally to others. A rising tide lifts ALL boats, rather than the petty tyrant who only feels good about themselves by devaluing others.
So the goal would NOT be to limit your own self worth, to avoid becoming a nasty piece of work… but the more you’re able to increase your self worth? The more value you can confer onto others, as well.