Writing letters

[loui50]

My T is big on having me write letters to people that hurt me. Not actually mail them but write them and go over them in session. I hate doing this. Writing them makes me feel vulnerable and reading them to her just plain sucks. Is there another way. How do i tell her i hate this?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Can you just tell her how much you hate doing it and why? I would start the conversation that way first.

 

[NightSky]

Yeah, just say "I hate this." She doesn't ask if you're confortable with it? I see the possible benefit of it but if you're feeling too vulnerable to be present with the process than it's not helpful. I wouldn't be able to do that. Anything that has to be read I pass to my T and ask her to read it to herself. I can't read things out loud and I don't even like her to. I would probably just flat out say no. I can't. You're allowed to say that.

 

[UnicornSightings]

I hate most everything we do in therapy lol. That strong resistance is important for change to occur. That said, if it's too much, it's too much. Have a conversation with your t about why you don't want to keep doing it. Ask her what she thinks you're getting out of it.