Yay! He Does Care!

[Reclusive]

My car died today. She's been having trouble for awhile now and I think she's got nothing left to give. She needs a new part. I posted about it on my FB and almost immediately I got a message from my dad with all sorts of instructions and him offering to pay for the repairs. So, I guess he really does care, he just has trouble showing it.

I'm actually feeling pretty hopeful now about things right now - I thought I'd lost my Dad forever.

 

[Abbi]

Hope it goes well for you.

 

[ronin47]

That's wonderful! Little by little. That's what I've learned in trying to rebuild relationships. Start with small things like fixing a car and go from there.

 

[Nicolette]

Good news....hope it goes well & your car is fixed soon also :)

 

[anni]

I smiled because of your father's message and because you said 'she' when referring to your car. :) I'm glad I'm not the only one but have gone a step further and named mine.

I hope the repairs to both car and relationship are lasting for you. :)

 

[Reclusive]

I hope so too. In my last message to my dad yesterday I told him I missed him. No response, but I think he can't deal with emotions. Growing up he was Mr Logic and mom was Emotions Matter. So... maybe he just doesn't know how to express/feel/deal with emotions, good and bad? I don't know.

My car's name is DCT. It stands for Dreams Come True and there's a very special story about why she has that name. It's the one good memory of my dad that I have from before I turned 18. That car has saved my carcass so many times...!

The car before her was named Ireland.

 

[KP the nut]

It sounds as if your Dad cannot show emotions. But like a few men I know, show him a broken car, leaky tap, flat tyre, something to solder ...... and up they step. He can show in practical not emotional ways that he loves and cares for you.

You are blessed to have a Dad who cares.

 

[Reclusive]

Yes, KP, you're right. I am blessed. It might not be my ideal of a relationship, but maybe I really can develop a relationship with my dad that's unique to us. Maybe.

 

[KatieConfused]

Reclusive,

I'm happy for you! I hope that things continue to get better.

Best
KatieConfused

 

[Reclusive]

I hope so, too, Katie. I really do. And not having my car is making me crazy, along with my allergic reaction, so I need the extra little good to keep me balanced.

 

[anni]

You sound so self-aware with this, Reclusive. 'Balance'. It's so much my other buzz word-the first one being 'contained'. It all sort of flies out of the window without those.

'Princess Isabella de Gallaway de Burgh'. :) It's a long name for a 5 year old Taurus but she seems to like it.

 

[Reclusive]

Thanks - I've tried my whole life to stay balanced and I recognize that part of the reason I am where I am is because I neglected the balance, so I'm trying to stay focused on it.

I LOVE the name of your car! How did you come up with it?