You Know You Are Healing When...

[Ronin]

... When your critic returns, as you're able to spot at least /some/ of the bullshit for bullshit. Or likely bullshit you better consult someone wiser about.

 

[Let It Be]

When you realize that the shame and guilt that so controlled your life, doesn't have that much affect on you as it did.

I so remember the times that I have to come up with excuses to tell everyone why my mother never came to visit me, even when I was having major surgery or why I didn't go to visit my family over the holidays!

 

[NatBird]

When I can say how I am feeling and what I need to someone I am close to.

When I can take the risk of being rejected, abandoned or not achieving the desired outcome.

 

[Beans]

You realize you're not on high alert. :eek:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

When you begin to not hurt as much each day.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

When you actually feel anger at people who are harming you, instead of blaming yourself.
When emotions enable you to be decisive instead of turning on you.

 

[The Albatross]

When you can cut down on cigs even though you started a new job.

 

[Teasel]

I might not be living the life i want yet but I no longer have a death wish.

I might not have much of an idea of what the future will be like or even what i want to aim for but I can imagine there being a future.

Even have had moments of gratitude and joy over the present moment that have brought me to tears.

Intense emotions are less intense and of briefer duration and I am far more able to remember that things like grounding exhist.

I more often and more readily feel actual self compassion and a relaxing of tension in my body.

I have had some actually nice dreams.

 

[DharmaGirl]

You get suicidal thoughts again, but know they will pass, and it means you are overwhelmed which means you have to set boundaries.

 

[ms spock]

That action is the next step.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Already achieved!:)

 

[ms spock]

@DharmaGirl -
Good show!