Relationship Your Relationship Hurt Caused By Ptsd ( Supporters/carers)

[Trying best]

Supporters- what is the hurtful thing your ptsd partner has done to hurt you in a relationship? (intentional/ unintentional)

Carers- in a relationship, do you know what your suppprters have to go through??

 

[LilBit]

Deleted. I think the other poster is correct. Not a productive thread. I am sitting in a hospital room with my spouse who is ill and I'm not thinking clearly. I sincerely love my sufferer like a kid sister and although I have a hard time with her sometimes I need to focus on the good not the bad. She is a sweet lovely kind soul who only wishes she did not have a disorder.

 

[Meadowsweet]

For a person with PTSD, it is often extremely hurtful to hear ex-suporters whip up hatred for everything hurtful that their partner did, and say that PTSD did it. I have PTSD, I don't have a partner or any support. Instead, I support others in my job and in my home life. Having been in violent and abusive relationships, I empathise with others who have been there. So to be catagorised as "abuser" in any way shape or form, just because I have PTSD, is distressing.

I fight the urge to just take myself off this earth, because I am being made responsibe for other peoples failings and seeing the hatred that is aimed at me based solely on a medical diagnosis.

These questions are passive aggressive, the worst kind. If you're angry at a partner, get angry or talk about the hurt that he has caused, rather than try to hurt others who have done nothing to hurt you at all.

As a person with PTSD, I use this part of the forums to look at myself, to analyse and work through the issues that I have. It takes every bit of the time I have to myself. And I feel that it's ok to want a bit of respect for the work that I do on my PTSD. And not have to put up with angry people looking to take their shit out on me because I have this particular condition.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I don't think you should be discussing this in the SUFFERER section as it could be very hurtful to point out all the things that sufferers do wrong. It would be the same as if a sufferer went over to the supporter section and asked "supporters, what is it that you do to hurt your sufferer?"

Perhaps you should have it moved?

 

[Trying best]

@Solara My intentions are not to hurt sufferer or a supporter. It is simply to learn from both sides to get an insight so I and others can educate themselves. And honestly, I am very proud to admit my flaws in my own marriage due to my ignorance about ptsd so please don't discourage the learning process. It is only when you admit , the learning starts.

Ignorance is bliss but knowledge is Power! And I'm trying to empower myself. Also, I posted this under ptsd relationship so I'm not sure why this is specifically under sufferer section.

 

[Meadowsweet]

@LilBit , Thank you.

 

[Meadowsweet]

my intentions are not to hurt sufferrer or a supporter. It is simply to learn from both sides to get an insight so I and others can educate themselves.

To learn about both sides, the question would have been "supporter or sufferer, what is the hurtful thing your partner has done in your relationship" and "supporter and sufferer, do you realise what your spouse has to go through".

This isn't what you asked, so how can you have wanted to hear both sides?

 

[digger]

Also, i posted this under ptsd relationship so im not sure why this is specifically under sufferer section.

There is a 'supporter relationships' forum that might be more appropriate?

 

[Meadowsweet]

@digger , it has now been moved to that forum.

 

[Tinyflame]

Thanks @LilBit . I hope your spouse is doing better, hugs & strength to you, and prayers if that's ok. Remember to try to eat and rest and reach out too. :hug:

I think as people (with or without ptsd) we can do or be on the receiving end of inconceivably hurtful behaviours or words, intentional or unintentional. The list could be endless. I think what matters is where we go from there.

 

[Trying best]

To learn ?

@MeadowsweetI am NOT here to prove to you what my sentence or grammar should have been as a topic. If you read the actual message in the body, I am clearly asking sufferer and carers point of view. If you are into questioning my topic versus what I am actually trying to explain, you should follow my other posts which clearly shows how much I want to learn about my spouse condition and how much I am at a loss from losing a marriage. I here to empower my self with knowledge and as one of the user of this forum the best you can do is ques a intention that arises from usage of a bad english language in a thread versus trying to understand someones true intention. Please don't judge people as u never know how life for them is and we come here for support, knowledge and to vent, so please be a true supporter to other users.

 

[digger]

If you read the actual message in the body, i am clearly asking sufferer and carers point of view.

In your original post, you actually ask for points of view from 'supporters' and 'carers', which to me would be the same thing, but I'm guessing when you say carers, you mean sufferers? The question you pose to carers (sufferers?) though is do we know what we put supporters through, so it still comes across as being a gripe about sufferers and so more suited to the supporters section. That's how your post came across to me anyway.