What Can One Expect?

[Ava Jarvis]

No worries about return hugs. :hug:

 

[Ava Jarvis]

:hug:

I'm doing really badly right now. Yesterday wiped me, today is going to do the same.

Hope things are doing better for you.

:hug:

 

[Bloomy]

Still skinless and trying to lay low.

Take care dear Ava - hugs if I could.

 

[Changing4Best]

I have trouble eating most of the free food they give me at the food pantry too, but I do go anyway. I eat what little of it I can and the rest I give to my neighbors, who like it. So try doing that with everything but what you can eat. ANd if no one wants it, throw it out! It is out-dated anyway, right? SO there is no harm in throwing it out.

As to support, I can sure give you some of that. I have been poor before. In fact, I was homeless once for 3 years. I lost my job, my home and all my belongings in one day. All I had left to my name was two sets of cloths, and what I could carry in 3 small plastic grocery bags. I begged for money in the streets until I got enough for a cheap room in a run down motel and some cheap food from the grocery store that I could eat. Life was tough back then, but I survived.

These days, I live in a one bedroom apartment and I have enough money for my needs, nothing much more. I do have a few friends and a church that is a blessing to me. I am grateful for all I do have now, compared to what I had then. So there is hope for you. Life can and will get better. One piece of advice I can give you is that churches can help you. They even gave me toilet paper. (Being homeless with no toilet paper is really a hassle). Anyway, churches give charity quite often. Mine has just recently paid some medical bills for me. Don't be afraid to ask for help, it is available.

 

[Bloomy]

@SheilaKathy - Im kinda slowing accepting but Im still vunerable. So this guy said things that were not exactly calming to say it the least for me. Thats what tipped me over.

As to church paying medical bills that sure is a blessing. Aint happening over here.

But - what keeps me going is that there is still oportunities for getting back to work. The light may not be clear, but its there. And Ive recetly passed one examen in school and hopefull yIll pass the next 24 in may. Hoping it will uplevel my chanses for job.

Sheilakathy - you are brave and courages and a good woman. Thanks for you words and God bless.

 

[Exedra]

Bloomy , I have called mental health lines when I was on the verge of a meltdown and found there are times when the person on the other end is a real A--hole jerk. Giving unwanted advice, suggestions and comments that are not helpful at all, when all you called for was a bit of support.
And NO you were not negative at all

 

[Bloomy]

@Exedra I sometimes feel like a wolf surrouned by wacko sheeps with sharp teeths. Its disturbing that you also experienced it cause it means there is a problem with the so called help lines. So who are we to turn to when the going gets rough? They claim no man nor woman should be an islands on its own, but thats what we are expected to be?
In adition theyll cause you additional wounds learning you that for sure there is rarely someone who can be trusted to give support when you need it the most.

Its not always a help line then - its more a melt down line.....

 

[joeylittle]

So who are we to turn to when the going gets rough?

I'm curious - what would you have liked them to do, instead? For you in that phone call, what are some examples of useful help?

 

[Bloomy]

What I need is to hear something like - I can understand that must be a very dificult situation for you to be in. Im sorry to hear this on your behalf. I think you are being brave and you should be proud of really trying to overcome. This would give acceptance to the feelings I have in the moment and calm me down.

 

[Bloomy]

Other things I need is for someone to say that no matter how hard Im sure you can get through this. I dont like and I dont need pity. Oh poor you kinda thing. I need affirmation that encourage me to handle what I need to handle.

 

[Exedra]

@Bloomy

What I need is to hear something like - I can understand that must be a very dificult situation for you to be in. Im sorry to hear this on your behalf. I think you are being brave and you should be proud of really trying to overcome. This would give acceptance to the feelings I have in the moment and calm me down.

DITTO !

oops sorry for yelling

 

[Exedra]

Bloomy,

Other things I need is for someone to say that no matter how hard Im sure you can get through this. I dont like and I dont need pity. Oh poor you kinda thing. I need affirmation that encourage me to handle what I need to handle.

You are so correct, Empathy not pity there is a vast difference between the two.