My Boyfriend And I Both Have Ptsd, We Love Each Other But The Past Gets In The Way A Lot.

[J3FF98]

my boyfriend and I both have PTSD as well as anxiety, depression and trouble sleeping that comes with it. we have been dating for just over a year but almost 7 months apart because I had to move with my family. We really love each other but sometimes it gets to much. he fears stuff happening that happened in his past relationships. We both fear being hurt with our own different reasons. lately he's starting to question if we should still be dating and will it work out, he says he loves me and i know he does just it hurts knowing that you love each other and yet its whats pulling us apart. neither of us want to hurt each other and because we do love each other a lot the feeling of not wanting to hurt the other person is so much more painful so at times we feel they would be better of without us.truthfully he's starting to loose hope and I'm trying my hardest not to cry because I love him so much and we are falling apart because we are afraid of being hurt again and hurting the people we love the most by accident. idk what to do.

 

[EveHarrington]

How old are you?

 

[J3FF98]

How old are you?

I am 18

 

[Deleted member 34424]

Have you ever tried couples therapy? That could help (as well as personal therapy).

 

[EveHarrington]

18 is a bit young for a long distance relationship (which is difficult under the best of circumstances).

Maybe you should each focus on your own healing.

 

[J3FF98]

Have you ever tried couples therapy? That could help (as well as personal therapy).

we both already go to psychologists and no not couple therapy but we hardly see each other now we only see each other a week or two every school holiday.

 

[J3FF98]

18 is a bit young for a long distance relationship (which is difficult under the best of circumst...

We knew it would be difficult when we found out that i had to move, just we underestimated just how hard it actually would be. what makes it worse is that we where already prepared at the fact i could move anytime just we never thought it would actually happen. we know we are young but we do love each other and we want to work through it together plus theirs only a couple more months until schools over than i move bk so i can go to UNI its just that its really starting to get to us, sorry.

 

[Deleted member 34424]

Well, if it's long distance and can't work on things, then we can't give you that great of advice, especially if you're just 18.