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Misuse Of Psychological Terms?

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BradyLady

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The discussion of casual use of the term PTSD did show up in a search, but the last reply is almost two years old, so I thought it would be better to start a new thread. It's about people using the names of psychiatric conditions to describe normal, everyday, justifiable emotions. That's so frustrating to me, for two reasons.
1.) Some people don't understand that it is a medical illness, not merely a strong emotion.
2.) Once they finally get the "illness" part, from then on you can't HAVE a normal emotion without it being taken for a symptom of relapse.

Just wanted to say:

When your pet dies, and you cry about it for a week, you probably don't have depression. You're very sad. That's a normal reaction, and you have my sympathy for your loss.

When you noticed your back gate was hanging open, and then it took you a while to find your toddler, you were not having a panic attack. You were terrified. That's a normal reaction, and I'm glad it worked out well for you in the end.

When you keep teasing, needling, and picking at your wife, no matter how many times she asks you to stop, and she finally breaks down and yells at you, she is not being a psycho. She is angry. That's a normal reaction, and may I add, you're a jerk.

When you always make sure your gate is securely closed because you don't want your toddler sneaking out again, you probably don't have anxiety. You are being careful and making wise choices. Good for you.

When you fall down a flight of stairs and hurt yourself, and from then on you're cautious when you take stairs, you probably don't have PTSD. You don't want to injure yourself again, so you learned from what happened. Good for you.

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When you are in the store, and people are in the zone, won't move, or even realize you are standing there waiting, and you get irritated.... that's all it is ... irritation.Does not mean you are going to run to the rabbit hole because of anxiety, agoraphobia, or self hatred.... it means you were irritated.
 
As I've said before I've noticed 2 reactions to my vet's combat PTSD which really really piss me off. And although at first glance they are opposites, in fact they come from the same self centered place.

1. Oh, you have PTSD? Well, once I [stubbed my toe / had a minor fender bender / broke up with my boyfriend] so I know exactly how you feel - hell, I'm pretty sure I have PTSD too!
2. Oh, you have PTSD? Well, once I [stubbed my toe / had a minor fender bender / broke up with my boyfriend] and you know what? I'm fine. So you should just move on and be fine too!

Both of them make me want to roll my eyes backwards, spin my head and vomit while screaming in a deep voice "You have no f*cking idea what my vet has been through. Nothing in your comfortable first world, middle class, fat dumb and happy life is even close to it. Get away from me before I physically hurt you."

Sigh!
 
Just because something makes you emotional and/or aggressive, does not necessarily mean your ptsd has been "triggered". Nor does prefacing a statement about becoming overly aggressive with "I was triggered" somehow justify your aggresive behaviour!

Somewhat diminishes the experience of being genuinely 'triggered' to bandy it around every time our nostrils flare!
 
I can't believe I forgot this one.

When you make sure your spoons and forks are separated in the silverware drawer, and your music collection is alphabetized by artist's last name, you are neat and efficient and prefer to keep things where you can find them easily. You are not "being" OCD, and you probably don't "have" OCD either.

What about the flip side of that?

You won't allow yourself to even think you have PTSD because you don't believe that your trauma was "bad enough" to justify it?

I don't want to leave that unrecognized. Mine comes from child abuse and domestic violence. People can go through exactly the same event, and some get PTSD while others don't. It happens that way. It's like a gallon jug saying to a measuring spoon, "What do you mean you're overflowing? I'm holding a lot more liquid than that,and I've got room for more!"

And there are also those who would say, "Well, at least this and that didn't happen. You should be grateful, instead of letting yourself stay stuck in the past. It could have been worse." So much for "But you've never been in the military," as an automatic response to "I have PTSD."

Just because something makes you emotional and/or aggressive, does not necessarily mean your ptsd has been "triggered". Nor does prefacing a statement about becoming overly aggressive with "I was triggered" somehow justify your aggresive behaviour!

Somewhat diminishes the experience of being genuinely 'triggered' to bandy it around every time our nostrils flare!

Good one. I hadn't thought of people saying "triggered" when they really mean "disturbed" or "upset." And it is definitely NOT an excuse for being mean or rude to somebody else.
 
Something I said in an earlier post in this thread inspired an illustration. Art quality isn't real good, but I wasn't taking my time. I just thought it was a good analogy.
PTSD jug illustration.webp
 
Just reading through this thread for the first time and wasn't here when the first one was started.

It does make you think though. A lot of this I have just tuned out over time. People don't get it. I agree with @ladee it is funny. It's too bad that most people will never know just how ignorant and goofy they really are.

I also get it why it's maddening when people use the terms incorrectly or blame normal responses as though it's something they can't control. Being told "I know exactly what you're going through" gets me every time as does "just get over it, change your mind."

btw: @BradyLady your drawing is great!!! Love it!
 
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