Why Do Women Hate/dislike Each Other??

[J_trustno1]

I don't know anymore. Don't want to argue with people. I don't consider myself great or anything. Maybe there is something wrong with me if that makes someone else happy to read.

I think I will leave this thread alone for now. Don't want to create a scene here.

 

[sedna]

Yes, they are probably jealous of you. Screw them, you don't need people like that in your life! Took me th...

Why did I picture a frightening crowd of Scottish chavs when I read your comment? :roflmao:

 

[sedna]

I don't know anymore. Don't want to argue with people. I don't consider myself great or anything. Ma...

@J_trustno1 really what happens is everyone starts thinking about their own experiences and wondering how they come across also. I think its a little bit of a loaded subject for women, most of us have been on both ends of that experience at some point.

I'm sorry if somehow this made you feel worse, dont let it. You're an anonymous post and my comments reflected people Ive actually known, not you. I think some of the others comments weren't directed at you either.

I dont think you offended anyone, it made everyone think about all the situations they've felt that way on either side, I thought it was a good topic.

 

[J_trustno1]

thanks at @coco9 for clearing this out for me because I have been dealing with a lot of crap since last semester. I got almost raped by a guy I was dating from my college about 4 weeks ago. My "so called female friends" are not actually my friends. They are only nice to me on my face and I am the one who always initiates interaction with them. My best friend ditched me because I didn't "listen to her". Growing up was hell because mum's sister's, narcissistic brother and my own father made names for me, bullied me, emotionally and verbally abused me. I grew up becoming bitter and due to my experiences in the last 3-4 months, I have decided not to interact with anyone, especially the ones from my own culture because they are the people who've always abused me. I'm not saying my culture is bad but I've always had bad experiences with the kind of people I've met.

I helped this girl last semester when she was feeling down and didn't want anything in return. She used to talk to me a lot last semester, but as soon as she discovered what grades I had, she stopped initiating contact with me. I hardly heard from her and she doesn't even say "hello" to me in class instead she pretends to not know me. I am getting cold shoulder from girls, probably I deserve this treatment, maybe I'm born to be treated like "shit" by everyone else. Whenever I try being friends with guys, they just want more than friendship. So in the end I have no friends.

The only people I talk to are my lecturers and that is only regarding my study work, my counselor regarding my issues and my mum n brother about general stuff. I don't feel good anymore. I don't know what I have done wrong to attract this kind of behavior from people :cry:

 

[Casey_03]

I don't know what I have done wrong to attract this kind of behavior from people

I don't know if this will be helpful, but I can say that I spent years wondering why I seemed to attract selfish, cruel people. Every relationship I had -- whether romantic or platonic -- seemed to involve me and someone else who ultimately let me down and showed they didn't give a crap about me. For a long time, I felt like a victim and like the universe was out to get me. But at some point I realized (and am still realizing -- it's a process) that on some subconscious level I was seeking these kinds of people out. Why? Because the self-absorbed people didn't try to get to know me too well -- and that's how I wanted it. They kept the attention away from me and distracted me from my own shit. The really cruel ones often attracted me because they provided the kind of emotional distance I needed, the distance that would ensure I didn't get scared off too easily. In short, there was always a reason I attracted the people I did.

I don't know if the same is true for you -- I really don't know enough specifics about your situation. But if there is a pattern of your friends being jerks, there is likely a reason that you get along with such people in the first place.

And also, about the female question -- depending on how old you are, some of these females might simply be veering off into other directions in life and being really self-absorbed. When I started college, i had several close female friends. But by the time I graduated, we'd all gone in completely different directions in life and more or less stopped talking -- people find new interests, new groups of friends, and they scatter in different directions. It's not always personal.

 

[sedna]

thanks at @coco9 for clearing this out for me because I have been dealing with a...

Oh! The comment you just left is so different than how I read the first posts. It has a whole different feel to it and it's not the same scenario that comes up in my head.

I dont think thats you in the first posts, this one is. You know, if you're really guarded because you've been hurt badly and feel used or rejected, that guarded quality will make you look aloof. You're accomplished and attractive, you take pride in looking after yourself. Thats all good, there's nothing wrong with that.

But when women don't know that you're reserved and not showing vulnerability because your feeling the need protect yourself from getting hurt, they automatically decide its because you're stuck up. Sometimes they're just trying to protect themselves from feeling like your judging them for not measuring up. It can go both ways there. Some may be afraid you'd think less of them so they decide not to like you first. I've seen that sort of thing.

I suspect you're intimidating without realizing it. That invites competition and nastiness in women.

There's so many places and people that would totally get you. When I was in my 20's I felt just like you do, then I gradually figured out after making one friend that was 35 that I just needed older people than me to be around. I also discovered gay men are the the best girlfriends for me. I have no idea how old you are or what would work for you, I'm just saying it hit me like a rock thrown at my head at 25 that I'd been miserable hanging around people I was never going to fit in with before.

Its not you, its the people you've been around. You can change your whole world like wallpaper in the lounge. Dont be sad. :cry::inlove::hug:

 

[shimmerz]

If you are normally liked by guys and you have an uncomplicated and natural way of communicating with them and attracting them: do not ever count on a woman to be your friend, because that would not be happening, way too much jealousy.

If you naturally attract guys and they like your uncomplicated style and looks, don't ever count on guys being your friend either, because they always want more.

Yes. Yes. Yes. Dead on.

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks. I was very upset when I wrote that thread. I think I didn't word it too well and didn't describe the situation too well. I have been avoiding social activities as much as I can to protect myself especially after what had happened 4 weeks ago. I'm just too scared to interact with people at the moment because I have lost trust and feel vulnerable especially around men :( :cry:

 

[Deleted member 29920]

Scottish chavs

:hilarious::hilarious::hilarious: just imagine The Walking Dead with Scottish accents. The gay men here wouldn't make good friends either :banghead:

 

[J_trustno1]

@C j :roflmao: :roflmao: :laugh: :P

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I don't know

if you don't know what you done then it's likely you didn't do anything wrong, you're a nice person, they're not. Don't waste time worrying about it and just be more choosy in future :hug:

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks @C j , you're correct. :hug:s :)