Cutting Off Every Emotional Bond To Get Connected

[Rani G2]

@coco9

i understood what you said, thats why I said automatic.

Btw I dont pay my therapist ;-) God is not needed here.
Should or shouldnt will happen or not, thats why I said I will observe.

 

[sedna]

@coco9

i understood what you said, thats why I said automatic.

Btw I dont pay m...

It was a saying, I wasnt referencing God literally. I forget that sometimes Europeans dont pay therapists the way we do here.
I dont understand what you meant by automatic, but that could be the English gaps you mentioned.

My first thought in the late hour I'm at, is that I may have sent some girl into a therapists office asking him to explain Einstein's theory of relativity in relation to her view of the world.

Something like that could be in the same price range as a new Audi here. I'm sorry I wasnt easy to understand, Shankara.

 

[Kintsugi]

For what it's worth, Shankara, I feel extremely detached from humanity most of the time, and it takes me a really, really, really long time to find people I can actually bond with. I put on a good show of bonding with people I don't actually feel connected to, and I certainly collect a range of people in my life to fulfill very small roles in my life, but when it comes to making a connection that is truly deep and broad and fruitful, it takes a long time. Even when I finally do make that bond, it's difficult sometimes for me to feel connected to that person, because depression and the desire to self-isolate are powerful forces, and they make me withdraw and feel alone.

 

[watundah]

I'm on this boat. I feel almost everyone only wants to talk about themselves. When I find someone who really knows what it means to listen, who asks me how I am and waits for a real answer, who asks me questions about my adventures, then I know I've found a gem. Part of my problem is that I can be quiet around new people so they don't see my humor or the breadth of my experiences. But once in a great while, someone special comes along. It is hard to find people of depth vs surface friends. Often I make friends because I am a good listener and don't get to talk about my self!

 

[Rani G2]

Thanks Simply Simon!

but when it comes to making a connection that is truly deep and broad and fruitful, it takes a long time.

I wish I'd come that far to really get to know others. Its an invisible barrier that exists, either created by my own introversion or the individual who is only ready ( Without blaming that Person) to go to a certain limit. I feel I face this too often and it hurts. This is not about me vs the others. Thats just irrational, but thats how I perceive reality right now.

 

[Rani G2]

Hey watundah,

When I find someone who really knows what it means to listen, who asks me how I am and waits for a real answer, who asks me questions about my adventures, then I know I've found a gem.

Thats hard to find! I am with you.

 

[Rani G2]

This profound feeling if being detached is not only a personal psychological factor. I would go further and say that capitalistic societies ( Wonder if one can find other communities where solidarity plays a role) Create competition oriented psychologisation."I myself have to fight and get on". Most if us are driven by the competitive thought and I feel this is exploitative and alienating too.