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Sideways
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Yes, I agree that therapy should be a space where you go in and get to talk through the big issues. We don't go to therapy for a friendly chat - that's what friends are for. And friends do it for free!
Having said that, it may be asking a bit much of a T to 'go there' at the first appointment? Maybe? She needs to assess your mental health wholus bowlus, find out what your situation is (stable job? Stable accommodation? Family and friends? Meds and are they working? Coping skills? Etc etc). Then there's trust - it's easier to talk to friends; because they know you and have an established rapport... After all that, she needs to ascertain that, okay, this is ptsd, but where is this person at and what issues should we start with?
This is basically a complete stranger. And as frustrating as it is, it would be kind of inviting disaster for her to start digging away at trauma or depression or any of the real issues until she knows you, your situation, has assessed you sufficiently to establish a preliminary diagnosis and ascertained whether you are going to be able to go home and cope with the conversation without crashing.
Would it be possible for you to approach that initial "getting to know each other" period with an open mind? If so, hang in there, the frustration will turn into the usual nightmare of having to talk about the real stuff soon enough. If not, this T is probably a waste of time.
Having said that, it may be asking a bit much of a T to 'go there' at the first appointment? Maybe? She needs to assess your mental health wholus bowlus, find out what your situation is (stable job? Stable accommodation? Family and friends? Meds and are they working? Coping skills? Etc etc). Then there's trust - it's easier to talk to friends; because they know you and have an established rapport... After all that, she needs to ascertain that, okay, this is ptsd, but where is this person at and what issues should we start with?
This is basically a complete stranger. And as frustrating as it is, it would be kind of inviting disaster for her to start digging away at trauma or depression or any of the real issues until she knows you, your situation, has assessed you sufficiently to establish a preliminary diagnosis and ascertained whether you are going to be able to go home and cope with the conversation without crashing.
Would it be possible for you to approach that initial "getting to know each other" period with an open mind? If so, hang in there, the frustration will turn into the usual nightmare of having to talk about the real stuff soon enough. If not, this T is probably a waste of time.