Time To Call It Quits With Therapist?

[Muted]

Anyone ever feel like they don't want to go back to therapy?

I don't know if we were both 'off' today or what, but I don't want to go back. It felt like she was different, because of some things I told her last session. I just want to push her away.

 

[Ka-9]

I hate therapy.....but I adore my gal. She's gotta be one of the best on the planet. A great therapist in my opinion should never make you feel off. Challenging definitely but never judgemental or even thinly veiled so.

But one off day? Not such a bad deal.......if it's like 5 in a row, then I'd wonder.

 

[Muted]

Is it possible to be so in tune with your therapist that your gut says you've triggered her?

It felt judgmental...I had thought mine was the best:( until now...

 

[scout86]

I'd be willing to bet that probably pretty much everyone here has felt like not going back to therapy. I'm with @Ka-9 , if that feeling persists, talk about it in therapy before you decide to quit. Most of the time, when I feel like quitting, it's me, looking for a place to hide or something like that, not my T. Although he can't be brilliant ALL the time. :)

 

[Muted]

This isn't the first time I've felt this way...

Just a bad day and a very bad session I guess, didn't feel connected at all. It felt like she was treating me differently.

 

[desiderata310]

My therapist has had to make sure that he's taking really good care of himself otherwise I pick up on it and internalize it.
Maybe you're somewhat of an empath or HSP?
Ask her about it

 

[Ka-9]

The funnest therapist I had just hugged me....like reeeallll long. With crystals. She was an ex Olympic athlete. Very nice the hugs were.....but not so much improvement.

She smelled good though.

 

[EveHarrington]

Is it possible to be so in tune with your therapist that your gut says you've triggered her?

It felt...

It sounds more like hypervigilance to me.

 

[digger]

because of some things I told her last session. I just want to push her away.

Is it possible that you are projecting some of your own feelings and fears about the things you told her last session? If these were difficult things to share it may be that you were expecting certain reactions from her because of your own feelings about what you spoke about and were overfocused on looking for a negative response from her.

 

[Panda Bear]

Off days, and days I wish to never return are normal. Especially after I unload some pretty sensitive material. In fact, it seems built in and instinctive for me to fight to the death in subsequent sessions.

Some days he's off just because he's off...he's human.

Talk about it with them, it'll help.

 

[Deleted member 34328]

I agree with most of what's been said. Talk to your therapist about this. Chances are there is a valid explanation for this. Whether you like the reason or not.

I've been in therapy for about 4 and a half years now with the same therapist. I respect him and trust him completely and I still have off sessions. I've walked away at times wondering why I wasted time and money. Sometimes I'm really mad at him or completely missed the point.

It happens. Best thing is take a few days to breathe, do something completely different. When you have your next session you may be in a much better frame of mind to bring this up.

 

[Gs172003]

I have been cancelling alot lately. I used to go every week now all of a sudden...

I've come to realize it's because she's about to get to the stuff I don't want to face