Compulsive Lying

[Igo]

But do I care if the grandmother dies? No I couldn't care less if she was waterboarded for hours on end, stabbed in the stomach, humiliated, then left to die alone in a pit. But I will indirectly care for my friend's sake.

That is not caring. What you call "indirect caring" isn't caring.

Empathy is the abilty to put yourself in another's shoes. Even if that other is a stranger. You lack empathy.

If anyone, even a strange, had a family member that that happened to I would hurt for them. My heart would break for them. I would literally hurt.

That's empathy.

That is something that you need to bring up in therapy as those that lack empathy can do real damage.

 

[Fecifo]

I do care for other people... just very very select few. If I care about anyone else outside of that tiny circle, it's...

You didn't say that. You said you cared for this one person. Nobody else.
Having no empathy is something that can be changed. You can learn empathy.

 

[Mocu]

Is that a question for me? yes I have been suicidal, I have dissociative epodes and I've definitely felt numb.

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No it was for the person I quoted.

 

[Kozuj]

I don't know. It's a weird mental battle honestly.

I get a mental battle. I battle with two parts of me daily. It is confusing and exhausting. But honestly, these are things that need real hard work on with your therapist. Very hard work but all of this can be changed.

 

[Cizumu]

Aye! you need to have a very good memory to be a good liar, and if you are like me, and suffer from a poor long term m...

What's funny is that I actually don't. My memory is shit and I can't remember what I did a few days ago for the life of me.. (I had been tested and I do have memory issues.) I am aware that my bad memory is a disadvantage which is why whenever I tell a lie, it's only effective in that very moment. Because I do have bad memory, but I know I lie a lot, I'll just pick off where I started and I know when someone else is lying about what I may have said. Again, I'm careful about lies and if I think it may last longer than my memory span, I'll write it down before the day ends or before a few hours has passed as a reference, just in case. I usually don't need to though.

 

[Ehala]

Do not worry I did not see your comment as berating. Honesty is what will help me get insight since I don't doubt that...

I'm glad you recognize what you should and shouldn't do. However is that something your fri

So you've never been suicidal? Never disassociated? Never gone numb? With PTSD that's pretty impressive.

I've been numb. I've been suicidal. I've disassociated. Ive never relished in the distress of other people.

 

[Tezobo]

I'll write it down before the day ends or before a few hours has passed as a reference

You put a lot into this. I am wondering what your pay off is. Is it feeling powerful and strong? Is it to make up for feeling powerless and weak in your trauma?

 

[Cizumu]

That is not caring. What you call "indirect caring" isn't caring.

Empathy is the abilty to put yourself in another's sho...

Experiencing physical pain is how empathy is defined? Because then I have felt that.. for the select few I care about. Yes I agree my indirect caring is not really caring. Again, it's only for the benefit of my friend. If I think my friend is slightly upset, I will do anything I can to make sure she's not upset with me, and if she's sad or even crying, I will feel the pain in my chest. my heart will feel like it dropped and I'll want to cry for her, though I usually prevent myself if I am around her as to "stay strong" and a "shoulder to lean on" for her. Once she's gone, then I will. But I can't do that for a stranger. I don't see why I should care for another stranger, whether if they're suffering or not. It's their battle to deal with. I may once in a while say something if I think it can help their day a bit, but that is rare and when I do, it's not out of compassion. It's just "why not."

 

[Joracu]

That is not caring. What you call "indirect caring" isn't caring.

Empathy is the abilty to put yourself in another's sho...

I don't understand the OPs terminology.
"False truth". " indirect caring"

 

[Cizumu]

I'm glad you recognize what you should and shouldn't do. However is that something your fri

I've been numb. I've been s...

I'm sorry it seems your comment got cut off?

 

[Agazes]

Experiencing physical pain is how empathy is defined? Because then I have felt that.. for the select few I care about....

You need to work on that. Caring about how others feel is paramount to ending this cycle

 

[Apuro]

I'm sorry it seems your comment got cut off?

Yeah and now I don't remember what I was going to say lol