Compulsive Lying

[Uhuw]

A little 12 year old kid? I could choke him to death easily. Adults can't handle kids because they panic at a tiny moun...

You're full of it. You're just playing your game and I'm calling you out on it.

 

[Canewil]

Joeylittle here.

I'm starting to think you're trying to get a reaction.

That's called gaslighting. And it's flatout Abuse.

You're just playing your game and I'm calling you out on it.

The member who made these three posts in a row is now threadbanned.

If anyone has a problem with the original poster, report the post you are concerned about. I don't see that the poster here is trolling, and these kinds of multiple in-thread accusations only go towards escalation, especially in Anonymous threads.

 

[Ejabu]

That's called gaslighting. And it's flatout abuse.

Or compassion.

Since the OP was talking about doing something to make someone else feel better. Specifically, they didn't care that the person died, but they did care their friend was hurting over it, so did what they could. What's the "right" response? Sadness. Oh I'm so sorry! Oh that's terrible! Etc. Are there honest ways to go about compassion, when you could personally give a flying f*ck? Yes. Since the OP is coming from a history of lying? What's their natural response going to be? To tell the truth? (Im so sorry you're in so much pain) or to lie (I'm so sorry, that's terrible)? And how is either abusive???

 

[Epic]

I know you said you see it as manipulating others, but I see it as you must feel very poorly about yourself to feel you have to lie all the time. JMO.

 

[Sinag]

That's a very interesting point you make, can you elaborate based on the evidence you've gathered? I will add, I do hav...

Evidence?

There's plenty of things that you've said that remind me of someone I know who is on the highly functioning end of the spectrum.

No, he doesn't lie. I think he's lied to me like once because he was pissed and trying to mess with me. (Total frustration had set in my that point, he doesn't rattle easily.)

So the lying part I'm not chalking up to being on the autism spectrum, nor have I ever heard that lying is a symptom of that disorder.

However, you are coming off (in my perception) as very matter of fact, not able to see or understand why people would do things for emotional reasons i.e. feeding a kid is stupid if it's a matter of survival.

(This is a bit of a tangent)
So while some may "save the kid" for emotional reasons, you're neglecting the fact that every species has a drive for the species to survive. So many would be driven to "save the kid" even in the absence of an emotional bond.

(Back on topic.)

But it seems you are singular in your views. You are driven for you and yourself alone. You don't (can't?) understand why people have (certain?) emotions, or even the bonding process. (Which reminds me of my friend.)

Coupled with the sensory issues, I think it may be a good idea to seek out a professional who can tell you if you're on the spectrum.

I have a feeling that fixing the lying may have a different path if you're on the spectrum. I don't say this to offend you in the least, rather a professional who can understand your disorders is always best when trying to heal.

 

[Imes]

Or compassion.

Since the OP was talking about doing something to make someone else feel better. Specifically, they did...

Please look at the big picture. You're arguing specific points. I think the person you quoted was arguing the <entire picture>.

Big difference.

 

[Fabuvet]

Please look at the big picture. You're arguing specific points. I think the person you quoted was arguing the <entire pic...

My bad. I said this. I was thinking about what someone else said earlier in the thread. I did not see those 3 responses from the now thread banned person. My apologies, I'm not trying to start anything with anyone. (I always get a new name in this forum and I don't know why? I mean the OP has kept the same anonymous name. Oh well, maybe it's my settings?)

 

[Dufij]

Please look at the big picture. You're arguing specific points. I think the person you quoted was arguing the <entire pic...

I'm allowed to see the big picture differently than someone else.

They can see abuser!!!!

I can see abused kid who learned to lie to survive -and like kids do turned it into part experiment part game- who cut themselves off from the world... Who is growing up. Who is forming attachments with people, and trying to change a lifetime of skills, and habits. I've known a lot of these kids. Coming up out of abuse, and war, and gangs, and camps. And it's usually one person. One person that is real to them, that starts that process of maybe kinda sorta wanting to learn to do something differently.

Which of us is right? No idea. Either. Both. Neither. Shrug.

But reasonable people can and do differ. Can look at the same evidence and come to different conclusions.

 

[Zehalo]

Oro here again. No it won't be. People on the spectrum struggle with theory of mind/cognitive empathy and not so much em...

Well you're not a doctor so you can't tell someone what they are or are not. That's why I said go see a specialist because parts SEEM like they'd potentially put them on the spectrum.

 

[Utoho]

I'm allowed to see the big picture differently than someone else.

They can see abuser!!!!

I can see abused ki...

I repeat.....

"My bad. I said this. I was thinking about what someone else said earlier in the thread. I did not see those 3 responses from the now thread banned person. My apologies, I'm not trying to start anything with anyone...."

Please calm down.

Please breathe.

Thank you!

 

[Fohulip]

I'm lost. I don't think the OP said their gender? But talking it's easy to choke a child to death- on a ptsd forum with many who've gone through child abuse, the OP too? I am very surprised this isn't an instance of trolling.

 

[Necoj]

Joeylittle again. What part of this is unclear, exactly?

If anyone has a problem with the original poster, report the post you are concerned about. I don't see that the poster here is trolling, and these kinds of multiple in-thread accusations only go towards escalation, especially in Anonymous threads.

Call troll, get threadbanned. It's simple.

This forum exists for people to post about difficult subjects. The example of choosing their own life over a child's was a hypothetical example, not a plan. If it bothers you, go read elsewhere. It's not the topic.