Ptsd And My Relationship

[Oicu812]

My relationship is going down the tubes due to this monster called PTSD, and I don't know what to do and at times I feel that I really don't care anymore. It all seems I have become so numb to what has been going on in my life that it just isn't worth it anymore.

These feelings of hyper vigilance and racing heart beat are driving me batty, I just want peace, my girl that I have been with for 18 years has given up on me, she does not even want to talk anymore and she resents the fact that I have had PTSD for 46 years, she feels that I should have let her know before we dated about this and that I should have gotten the proper help before we decided to be a couple-

Back 40 years 2 failed marriages many lost jobs and many hurt feelings and friends, did not know about PTSD until 1 1/2 years ago when I was diagnosed and now I'm losing her and I just don't know what to do anymore.

I'm so tired and depressed and this monster needs to be stopped, I'm in treatment but wow it will take so long, any one else at this point in their lives, I just want peace even if I have to give up. Greg

 

[John paul]

Anytime you need to talk

 

[Glo809]

Greetings
My situation is a wee bit different, I am my partners 5th relationship and she my 4th.

We have been together for over 10 years, a near head on collision allowed the little bastards escape and run rampant in my noggin.

Now on meds, the kicker is I have to use a substitute to help me through this. Fortunately I found one.

She won't help me because she is afraid of her own deep dark secrets and by helping me they might escape. Then it'd would be both of us in the pit.

G

 

[Mytime]

Hi welcome to the forum :) do you want the relationship to work?
Or are you just numb and not sure what you want?
If you want it to work have you thought about Counseling?

 

[Oicu812]

Hi welcome to the forum :) do you want the relationship to work?
Or are you just numb and not sure what...

hello, thank you for posting, yes I am in therapy for about a year and a half, ever since I've bee diagnosed with PTSD. The problem here is my girlfriend is becoming such a bully due to the fact I can't work, I am unemployable due to a severe injury as well as this PTSD monster in my head, so becoming numb seems normal at this point but this is when hyper vigilance in it's strongest form takes over, survival of the fit and the spinning mind. I feel like I'm going backwards and cannot stop, at times the only way out I feel is suicide really, the noise and monster in my head can finally stop and be put down like a rabid dog, I am nobody, nobody anymore, just want peace and quiet and the beauty I used to see.

 

[Mytime]

You have a lot of stress in your life.
Have you read the stress cup on the forum? I'm happy to hear your in therapy. But please know you are a somebody, we all are. If you want your relationship to work, I would suggest counseling. Just make sure the counselor has experience in PTSD. I'm in marriage counseling and therapy. I'm here to support you, sending hugs if you except

 

[Renestel]

This thread hasnt been active in a while, but I wanted to say to you that you are so not alone in this. My husband said to me just two nights ago he wishes I would have let him know what he was getting into before we started dating. What a hurtful statement that is to us. What are we supposed to do, give people a resume of all the awful events that happened to us and say how broken we may be in certain situations or times in life but the "normal" people dont? No one is perfect. I understand relationships are a two way street, but I have suggested couples counseling while Im in solo counseling and weve only gone twice, (each time I have to make all the effort to set up) I bought him a book on people living with someone with PtSD and he never finished it, some of us just dont have as much support as others. I really hope this has worked out for you and you have found more peace.

 

[Glo809]

Greetings
The Mrs made a comment that my flash anger is directed to inanimate objects....... for now.

I did not respond, but it hurt thinking that she thought I would hurt her.....

But I also know that there is no way to know how this condition will affect me in the future.

I feel like a POS right now, and I'm just sitting here watching tv with her.

G

 

[Walnutz]

My relationship is going down the tubes due to this monster called PTSD, and I don't know what to do an...

I am in a similar situation. I have been in and out of one on one therapy, taken hand fills of medication and joined group theropies to help quite the demon that is ptsd in my head. My mood swings range from quite peace to full on hulk smash mode. My wife is close to breaking. My meds also kill my sex drive which is also hurting my wife and our relationship.
If she gives up on me I feel I could easily become another casualty of PTSD. She tries to cope but I know it's getting to her. I try to stabilize my moods by getting to an I don't care mode where I try to avoid any emotion at all but then the damn breaks and i make bi-polar people look sane. What the hell else can I do?
Meds: yes
Therapy: yes
But it only seems to help for a very short period of time! I love my wife and feel she doesn't deserve to be on the receiving end but she is the only one I trust enough to be myself around (good or bad).
Can anyone else relate?

 

[Glo809]

Greetings

Meds have been upped, and the result is showing.

Now the question is, as I progress, will the meds continue to increase?

I know we are all different, but just thinking.......
G.

 

[Mytime]

What do you do for self care? What does your wife do for self care?

 

[Glo809]

Greetings

She does nothing for her self care, she just takes the pain whether mental or physical and deals with it.

At some point she will have to see a md, as for me I'm very active in med/treatment for ptsd.

Because I know what a pos I can be and have been. B ut now I know why I was what I was.

G