I Shared In Another Thread What Happened To Bring Me Here

[Gs172003]

And now I regret it. I also sent it to my therapist and I regret that too. Now what do I do?

 

[Muted]

And now I regret it. I also sent it to my therapist and I regret that too. Now what do I do?

I hate it when that happens. It may have been a part that's either trying to heal things or protect through sabotage. Depending on how long it has been if you have a paid membership I believe you can delete it.

 

[digger]

Now what do I do?

Can you expand a bit on what you want to do something about? What do you feel need help with? Is it that you would like suggestions on how to manage your feelings out it? If so can you share a little more about what it feels like for you right now?

 

[Friday]

Why do you regret it?

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ETA... I realize this may seem like "Duh! Isn't it obvious???", but it's not. I can think of about 50 different reasons why you might regret it, and none of them could be the reasons why you do. Also a lot of them conflict. So rather than going down my own list & writing a paragraph on each & having none of them be helpful, figured I'd straight up ask.

 

[watundah]

Sometimes it feels like regret to allow vulnerability but if you let yourself accept the compassion you will receive you'll see it could be a very positive outcome.

 

[joeylittle]

Now what do I do?

Accept that it's done.

I had a major panic after I made my first diary post. I wished I could take it all back. I've had other moments like that with things I've emailed to my therapist.

What I've come to accept is, if I wrote it, then it was on my mind and it was important to get it out there. Now, I'm not an especially impulsive person - I don't tend to blurt things out in public without at least being aware that I'm in public - or, re: my therapist, I'm aware that I'm communicating specifically to him when I'm sending him an email.

And to be honest, I don't think you are super-impulsive either, when it comes to stuff in your life. I think that you wrote what you needed to write, you shared what you needed to share. There's an advantage to this kind of sharing - one can commit to it, push that send button, or that post button, and then deal with the lingering anxiety about it separately - if that makes sense. It allows one to separate the choosing to tell it from the worry about being judged, or rejected, or anything else.

I think that's a really useful thing, especially working with trauma.

So what do you do? Accept that it's done, and try instead to identify what the main thought is that goes with the regret...CBT would call it the "hot thought".

 

[Gs172003]

Accept that it's done.

I had a major panic after I made my first diary post. I wished I could take...

Ok. I'll work on that.

 

[Gs172003]

Sometimes it feels like regret to allow vulnerability but if you let yourself accept the compassion yo...

Thanks

 

[Gs172003]

Why do you regret it?

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ETA... I realize this may seem like "Duh! Isn't it obvious???", but it's not...

Im not entirely sure but all I know is its scary

 

[Gs172003]

Can you expand a bit on what you want to do something about? What do you feel need help with? Is it that...

The best way to describe it is naked? Staring it in the face? I don't know

 

[Gs172003]

I hate it when that happens. It may have been a part that's either trying to heal things or protect thr...

Ill have to think on that

 

[Gs172003]

Ok friends stepping away from the thread for a while