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Don't say any more. I get it. In the same boat with my husband since Friday night.
I can't handle strange men, especially when taken by surprise. The thing is, I always hope for support and understanding from him, but being a logical thinking person, he can't get it.
My husband has been observing me since the beginning (5yrs ago this past weekend). He is a big part of a lot of why's. So he's had ample opportunity to help, join in therapy, just chooses not to.
In a sense, your husband just got hit over the head. A lot of light bulbs might come on for him now. He may be able to connect some dots. Maybe join you in whatever capacity he can. - or not.
I wouldn't put too much stalk in his being able to process much for a while. He may need help to deal with this, but as hard as it is, some open face to face communication needs to happen now, I would caution you to be ready to do a lot of listening and perhaps not too much probing or adding to whatever he needs to vent.
I can't handle strange men, especially when taken by surprise. The thing is, I always hope for support and understanding from him, but being a logical thinking person, he can't get it.
My husband has been observing me since the beginning (5yrs ago this past weekend). He is a big part of a lot of why's. So he's had ample opportunity to help, join in therapy, just chooses not to.
In a sense, your husband just got hit over the head. A lot of light bulbs might come on for him now. He may be able to connect some dots. Maybe join you in whatever capacity he can. - or not.
I wouldn't put too much stalk in his being able to process much for a while. He may need help to deal with this, but as hard as it is, some open face to face communication needs to happen now, I would caution you to be ready to do a lot of listening and perhaps not too much probing or adding to whatever he needs to vent.
