Get to to to a loud and crowded ren faire tomorrow, yay!

[GwenDR]

We're going to a local renaissance faire tomorrow for mother's day. I've been nervous about it all week, and it's really hitting me now. My wife was already upset that I was upset earlier this week, and almost cancelled it because she was worried it'd be awful for me, and that it'd make it no fun for anyone else. I insisted we don't cancel it, and I don't want to be the reason that we didn't go.

But I'm incredibly nervous, and not looking forward to it at all. And I really really don't want to make it awful for everyone else, because my wife and child deserve a wonderful day. So, we'll see how it goes.

 

[gealach]

Are you going to be in renaissance faire dress? if so, could it be your secret identity for the day? It might help to be Lady Gwen of whatever-land for the day, just a thought.... I hope you do have fun and truly enjoy yourself

 

[GwenDR]

So I wound up getting to rent an awesome dress, and the ladies at the costume place were really nice and helpful. But the whole outing kinda got ruined right off the bat by an asshole working at an icecream shop who thought it'd be hilarious to call me "mancess" and got indignant when I didn't think it was the funniest joke in the world.

I shouldn't have reacted to it as much as I did, but it really hurt in a way I'm not sure everyone can understand. All I could think about was how obviously I looked like a man, all the years I've hated myself for it, and how I'd never really be passable. I wound up throwing away the icecream because all I could taste was that f*cking idiot calling me that obnoxious name.

 

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but it really hurt in a way I'm not sure everyone can understand.

I will not pretend to understand how it hurt, but I do understand THAT it hurt. Actually, reading the above made me *very* angry at the ignorant sorry excuse for a human and his pathetic attempt at "humor", which was, in actuality, an attempt to shame.

because my wife and child deserve a wonderful day.

You also deserved a wonderful day and I applaud your courage to go to the event despite your anxiety (mine often keeps me from things like this) and I am so sorry it was tainted by ignorance. I'll bet *ANYTHING* you looked stunning in that dress!!

 

[Deleted member 37474]

I am so sorry for your experience. It was kind of you to put your wife and kid first. I wish the world was a better place.

 

[Deadman]

I'm kind of envious of a ren faire. Why let the ignorant guy ruin your day? Have fun. Skip the judgement.

 

[GwenDR]

I did have fun! And I'm really glad that I went. When my wife suggested leaving after it, I adamantly refused, because I was not going to let that asshole scare me away from the faire.

 

[gealach]

I'm glad that you went, and had a good experience with finding the costume. And I'm glad that you were able to stay at the faire, and enjoy your day with your family after the ice cream guy's dumbassery.