Personal power?

[Teasel]

Where does personal power come from?
How do you go about increasing it?
Thanks

 

[Deleted member 541]

I think it comes with increased self respect, and self empowerment.....

 

[Deleted member 41765]

To the above I'd also add self-compassion (note to self: please consider your own advice!)

 

[Friday]

What do you mean by personal power?

 

[Crow]

For me it comes from walking towards my fear and being successful. That increases confidence within myself which feeds my empowerment. Even when I fail miserably, at least I've tried. And that helps me be more compassionate and self aware which again increases my feeling of power.

 

[Ronin]

Bad times: Determination to live / Determination to die somewhere else or in different circumstances, if not live.

Good times: Creativity & spirituality. A sense of connection with everything around me, and most of everyone.

Increasing it? Usually with more life & with more sharing.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

For me, it's about owning my life. I am the boss of me. I am my higher power. I am accountable. My mistakes are mine to own, as are my accomplishments. I feel strong. No one can hurt me without my permission.

@Bearlinda, what's your take on this?

 

[Teasel]

I don't have much of an idea about it at all. Posted to learn something :-)

 

[shimmerz]

How do you go about increasing it?

For me, the turning point was in dealing with my inner critic. Replacing that talk with things that I would have said to my children rather than calling myself names, pushing myself beyond normal limits, being abusive to myself.

 

[Deadman]

Personal power is one of those terms I swear was made up to sell self help books. If you google the term you get lots of Tony Robbins style mumbojumbo.

How do you go about increasing it?

Good question. Here is mine: How do you know you've increased your 'personal power' given that you can't measure it?

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I have to change my answer. I've been thinking about this for a couple of months and have come to the conclusion that it's accountability. If you're accountable, then you're the only person who has control over you. And being in control of yourself is powerful.

I've been thinking about my shitty relationships. My sisters' shitty relationships. It takes two people to have a dysfunctional adult relationship. If the victim is unable (unaccountable) to recognize his/her contribution to the dysfunction, then s/he can't take steps to fix it.

 

[ladee]

For every time I stepped out of my comfort zone, and was vulnerable, I got stronger each time... even if I got hurt.... I also feel it's about acceptance.... We have PTSD, which then goes with what Mal said, accountability.... I can stay in the fetal position wishing for death, or I can do what the hell ever it takes to make one tiny step further down my healing road.Even when I feel weak and afraid, I do it anyway.... I am going to be dead longer than I am alive... I insist on making this life have meaning... if to no one else but me.... to have a purpose.....